Walking barefoot across a minefield of LEGOs or robbing Kevin McCallister on Christmas Eve still sounds more appealing than networking to me, because I used to believe “working the room” meant faking it, enduring soul-sucking small talk, and collecting connections like a used car salesman. But after years of avoiding the dance floor (literally and professionally), I learned the hard way that being awesome is only half the battle, and the other half is making sure the right people know it.

In this episode, I break down how everything changed when I stopped “spraying and praying,” started building genuine relationships instead of transactions, and embraced the uncomfortable truth my dad told me years ago: you will never be ready, so just get out there, because networking isn’t about getting jobs, it’s about finding your people, and the quality of your life is ultimately determined by the quality of those relationships.

All that in more in my latest Substack → ​The Introvert's Pocket Guide to Building Genuine Connections In a Disconnected World​

When you're done → ​I'd love your thoughts here in the comments!

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My father was the unlikely combination of a small-town hero and a reclusive introvert, yet still built a network where everybody knew his name and showed up when it mattered most. In this episode, I explore how that analog network stood in stark contrast to a world where even simple conversations have been replaced by exhausting systems and our lives have become nothing more than an endless series of transactions. Join me as I dig into why the robots are just shovels digging our existential hole of loneliness, and why the path forward isn’t more connections or more swipes but a few incredibly valuable relationships, because the quality of your life is ultimately determined by the quality of your human relationships.

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All that in more in my latest Substack → ​We've created a world where nobody knows our names.

When you're done → ​I'd love your thoughts here in the comments!

In this mini episode, I imagine being thrown back to the “Dark Ages” of 1994 with no Internet, no Google, no AI, and I ask myself where I’d be frustrated, where I’d fumble, and where I’d be absolutely f•cked. I tease how much of my work and life I’ve cognitively offloaded for the sake of convenience, and why the real danger isn’t losing access to tools but outsourcing thinking, synthesizing, and creating to the machines. As we cross the Rubicon into the Age of AI, the question isn’t just “Am I still useful?” but whether I’m protecting the parts of the creative process that must remain human. I’ll share my rules to stay the master of my technology by defining where I collaborate with the machines versus where I refuse to outsource the work before AI enshittifies and I’m f•cked.