No More 'Good Girl'

Silence can hurt more than yelling.

If your stomach drops when your partner shuts down...
If the quiet makes you spiral, overthink, apologize, or chase...
If you've ever softened your truth just to keep the peace...

This episode is for you.

Because the silent treatment?
It's not self-regulation.
It's not space.

And it's definitely not healthy communication.

It's emotional withdrawal — often used to create leverage, not connection.

And for women who grew up managing emotions to stay safe, silence doesn't feel neutral.

It feels like danger.

In this episode, I unpack:
✔️ Why the silent treatment triggers old wounds and codependent patterns
✔️ The difference between healthy space vs. emotional control
✔️ How over-apologizing, softening, or over-explaining reinforces the cycle
✔️ What to do when silence shows up — without becoming reactive or cold
✔️ How to stop chasing and start self-honoring without blowing up your relationship

You'll learn how to stop rewarding withdrawal with pursuit... and how to step out of the pattern
with clarity, calm, and truth.

This isn't about fixing your partner.

It's about choosing yourself without guilt, fear, or collapse.

LINKS:
● Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace
https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women
● Free Empower YOU Breathwork:
https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork
● Boundary Babe Academy:
https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery
● Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/

● The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience:
http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching

You grew up learning how to read a room before you learned how to read a book.
You learned to stay quiet.
To manage emotions that weren't yours.
To keep the peace so you'd stay safe.

And now you're wondering why your relationships feel heavy, why boundaries feel terrifying, and why you tolerate more than you ever should.

Imagine understanding why you feel responsible for everyone else's emotions.
Imagine finally putting down the invisible backpack you've been carrying your whole life.
Imagine choosing yourself without drowning in guilt.

In this episode, we're diving deep into enmeshment, codependency, and emotionally immature family systems — and how these childhood dynamics follow us straight into adulthood, romantic relationships, and even motherhood.

This conversation will crack things open if you've ever felt like:

• The truth teller in your family
  
  

• The "good girl" who kept everything together
  
  

• The one who gets blamed for rocking the boat
  
  

In this episode, you'll learn how to:

✔️ Identify enmeshment vs. codependency — and how each one shows up in your body and behavior
✔️ Understand hero child vs. scapegoat child roles and how they shape adult relationships
✔️ Stop managing emotions that were never yours to carry
✔️ Recognize why chronic defensiveness erodes connection over time
✔️ Set boundaries without shrinking yourself or over-explaining

You're not broken.
You adapted to survive.

And now you get to choose something healthier.

• Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace
  https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women

• Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork

• Boundary Babe Academy: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery

• Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/
  
  

• The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching

Show Notes:

Have you ever felt lonely inside your relationship?
Like you're doing all the emotional heavy lifting—asking, explaining, softening, fixing—while your partner stays distant, quiet, or shut down?

Imagine if you could stop chasing connection… and still feel close.
Imagine setting boundaries without blowing up your relationship.
Imagine finally understanding that you're not "too much"—you're just asking for what every human needs: safety, connection, and truth.

In this episode, we're talking about emotionally shut down (or emotionally avoidant) partners—where it comes from, why it hurts so much, and how to stop abandoning yourself in the process of trying to keep the peace.

This conversation is especially for the women who learned to be "the good girl," the fixer, the one who doesn't need much—but secretly feels exhausted, resentful, and alone.

Inside this episode, you'll learn:

✔️ Why emotionally shut down partners aren't cold or heartless—they're protecting themselves
✔️ How childhood roles (hero child, fixer, self-sufficient one) shape adult relationships
✔️ The difference between attunement and codependency—and why monitoring your partner's emotions is costing you
✔️ What doesn't work with emotionally avoidant partners (and why chasing creates more distance)
✔️ How asserting yourself clearly actually creates more safety, not less
✔️ Why boundaries are required for real intimacy—and how to stop seeing them as "mean"

If you've been editing yourself, lowering your needs, or telling yourself you're asking for too much… this episode will meet you right there—and help you shift the pattern without losing yourself.

• Repair Guide for the Woman Taught to Keep the Peace
  https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/repair-guide-for-women

• Free Empower YOU Breathwork: https://breathworkcollective.myflodesk.com/empower-breathwork

• Boundary Babe Academy: https://the-breathwork-collective.circle.so/checkout/boundary-mastery

• Follow My Journey: https://www.instagram.com/its.amandaclark/

• The Supported Woman Group Transformation Experience: http://amandaclark.biz/supported-woman-group-coaching