Neurodiverse (ADHD) Relationships: Nervous System Regulation & Conflict Management

Hard conversations have a way of showing up late at night—right when one partner wants to talk it through and the other needs space. In Part 1 of my conversation with Jana (an ADHD resilience coach) and her husband, Matt (a neurotypical engineer), we unpack the “thinker/feeler” dynamic, nervous system dysregulation, and the pursuer–retreater cycle that can keep couples stuck.

You’ll hear the practical tools that helped them shift the pattern, including active listening, pausing for your “best self,” and a surprisingly effective strategy: recording tough conversations to spot misunderstandings and reset the narrative.

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/fqSeYWbrnCc

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