Need Your Child to Reciprocate Love? Longing vs. Limerence for Alienated Parents

Understanding Limerence in the Context of Parental Alienation

In episode 149 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford delves into the concept of limerence within the context of parental alienation. Shelby explains limerence, describing it as an uncontrollable obsession often influenced by limited or non-reciprocal contact with an object of affection, in this case, one's child. Shelby outlines symptoms, causes, and the interplay of attachment styles, emphasizing the impact of ongoing trauma and loss experienced by alienated parents. She also discusses the parallels between limerence and addiction, noting that addressing underlying emotions and traumas is key to overcoming it. Listeners are encouraged to converse about their personal experiences and consider seeking coaching or counseling as needed.

00:00 Introduction and Announcements

02:47 Understanding Limerence in the Context of Alienation

05:29 Symptoms and Signs of Limerence

16:29 Attachment Styles and Limerence

21:20 The Impact of Limerence on Perception and Reality

24:56 Addressing Limerence and Moving Forward

26:13 Understanding Limerence and Its Effects on the Brain

27:11 Prerequisites and Susceptibility to Limerence

27:51 ADHD and Limerence: The Connection

28:36 Attachment Styles and Limerence

29:35 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Limerence

31:06 Recognizing and Addressing Limerence

33:04 The Impact of Limerence on Relationships

34:35 Breaking Free from Limerence

44:47 The Role of Grief in Overcoming Limerence

48:57 Final Thoughts and Seeking Help

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