Summary

In this conversation, Hilary shares her expertise on divorce strategy, focusing on the emotional and practical aspects of navigating divorce, particularly for women. She discusses the common reasons behind divorce, the importance of strategic planning, and the unique challenges women face during and after the divorce process. Hilary emphasizes the need for women to be empowered and informed, advocating for a supportive community to help them rebuild their lives post-divorce. In this conversation, Hilary shares valuable insights on navigating divorce, especially when children are involved. She emphasizes the importance of reducing conflict for children's sake and offers practical advice for those contemplating divorce. The discussion covers the significance of gathering information and resources, the role of communication, and the differences between amicable and high-conflict divorces. Hilary also highlights individuals' everyday struggles during divorce and provides insights for those entering new relationships.

Takeaways

• Women often file for divorce after years of contemplation.
• Divorce is not just a single event but a series of emotional cuts.
• Emotional disconnect is a significant factor in marriage breakdowns.
• Strategic planning is crucial for a smooth divorce process.
• Women need to be their advocates during divorce.
• The legal system can be overwhelming without proper guidance.
• Divorce outcomes can significantly impact women's financial stability.
• Support systems are essential for women navigating divorce.
• Rebuilding after divorce requires both emotional and financial strategies.
• Community support can empower women to navigate their divorce journey. The level of conflict in divorce significantly impacts children.
• Reducing conflict is essential for a healthy divorce process.
• Gathering information and resources is crucial before initiating divorce.
• Communication can help avoid costly legal battles.
• Amicable divorces can still involve disagreements and challenges.
• Choosing the right divorce pathway can save time and money.
• Understanding legal entitlements is essential for fair outcomes.
• Emotional experiences shouldn't dictate legal decisions.
• Observing family dynamics can provide insights into relationship expectations.
• Support systems are vital for navigating the complexities of divorce.

QUOTES

• "Divorce is a culmination of a series of cuts."
• "70% of women are filing for divorce."
• "Women are typically primary caregivers."
• "It's important to have a plan for rebuilding."
• "You have to be your own best advocate."
• "It's about the level of conflict."
• "You need money to force their hand."
• "Amicable doesn't mean no disagreements."
• "People come to invite the questions."
• "Observe how their parents' dynamic is."

How to work with

Hilary at Smart Girls Divorce Strategy

Social Media @smartgirlsdivorcestrategy