More Roommates Than Lovers? How to Rebuild Connection & Become a Thriving Couple

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Are you and your spouse more “roommates” than romantic partners? You’re not alone, cultural shifts and daily life pressures are making emotional distance a real threat to modern marriages. In Episode 102 Matthew & Monica Powers unpack why couples drift apart, what the research actually says about connection (and divorce), and, most importantly, practical, faith-friendly steps to rebuild an unstoppable “we.”

You’ll hear:

• Why missing the small moments (Gottman’s “bids for connection”) predicts relationship outcomes and how small turns-toward beat grand gestures.
• How shifting from “soulmate” expectations to a growth mindset helps you grow together instead of apart.
• Concrete, everyday exercises to find each other again: state-of-the-union meetings, intentional micro-moments, value alignment, and a better definition of self-care.
• Real couple stories from our lives (and the podcast mic) that make the tough work feel doable — not doom-and-gloom.
  Plus: we break down what major research says about marriage trends and why this moment matters for couples today.

If this episode lands for you, comment, DM us, or share — tell us one small thing you’ll do this week to “turn toward” your partner. Want a resource list or worksheet for your State-of-the-Union meeting? Hit reply and we’ll send it.

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