In this episode of More In Common, hosts Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson sit down with sociologist and systems-change strategist Nicholas Miller to explore the evolving meaning of masculinity in today’s world.

Using public conversations around modern masculinity—including ideas popularized by Scott Galloway—as a starting point, the group examines how masculinity has always been shaped by economic systems, social expectations, and access to opportunity. They discuss why narratives around rugged individualism, dominance, and self-reliance no longer serve most men—and never truly served everyone equally.

The conversation addresses the growing male loneliness crisis, the misdirection of resentment toward women and immigrants, and why redefining masculinity isn’t about blame—but about reconnection. Rather than offering a single definition, the episode makes space for multiple masculinities rooted in care, accountability, protection, and community.

This episode launches a multi-part series exploring masculinity, identity, and what it means to belong in a rapidly changing world.

• Masculinity is socially constructed, not biologically fixed

• There has never been one “correct” way to be a man

• Economic systems shape identity more than we admit

• Loneliness is a structural issue, not a personal failure

• Blame narratives distract from systemic causes

• Protection, care, and accountability are undervalued masculine traits

• Redefining masculinity is essential for healthier relationships and communities

Chapter Timestamps

00:00 – Why Masculinity Is Having a Moment 02:45 – What People Mean When They Say “Masculinity Is Broken” 06:10 – Masculinity as a Social and Economic Construction 10:55 – Rugged Individualism: Who It Served and Who It Didn’t 15:30 – The Male Loneliness Epidemic 19:40 – Why Resentment Gets Misplaced 24:10 – Patriarchy, Feminism, and Misunderstanding Power 28:50 – Multiple Masculinities Across Race and Class 33:20 – Protection vs. Domination 38:10 – Redefining Masculinity Through Connection 42:30 – Why This Conversation Is Just Beginning

Nicholas Miller is a tenured sociology professor at Sacramento City College, founder of multiple workforce pipeline programs, and co-founder of nationally recognized initiatives supporting justice-impacted students. He is also the founder of Conduits for Change, partnering with organizations to build equity-driven cultures and sustainable community impact.

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Keywords

Thanksgiving, family dynamics, conversation strategies, emotional intelligence, holiday stress, boundaries, gratitude, family traditions, communication tips, conflict resolution

Summary

In this episode, Gerren Taylor and Keith Richardson discuss the complexities of family dynamics during Thanksgiving. They share personal anecdotes and explore the emotional tensions that can arise during family gatherings. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, establishing boundaries, and navigating difficult conversations with curiosity and grace. The hosts provide practical strategies for maintaining peace and fostering meaningful connections, ultimately highlighting the significance of gratitude and shared experiences during the holiday season.

Takeaways

Self-awareness is crucial when navigating family dynamics. Thanksgiving can bring out old tensions and unresolved issues. Establishing boundaries early can help manage conversations. Don't try to win Thanksgiving; focus on connection instead. Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it is optional. Use curiosity to navigate difficult conversations. Take a moment to breathe and reset during tense discussions. It's important to protect your peace and honor your boundaries. Focus on the small moments that strengthen family bonds. Gratitude and connection are the true essence of Thanksgiving.

Sound bites

"Don't try to win Thanksgiving." "Take a beat, take a breath." "You don't have to fix your family."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Holiday Reflections 02:51 Thanksgiving Memories and Family Dynamics 06:19 Navigating Family Tensions During Holidays 12:11 Strategies for a Peaceful Thanksgiving 18:15 Building Relationships Through Understanding 24:00 Final Thoughts and Thanksgiving Traditions

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Summary

In this conversation, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor explore the No True Scotsman logical fallacy, and the complexities of belonging and identity in social movements. They discuss how purity tests can create division and the importance of empathy and curiosity in fostering deeper connections within communities. The dialogue emphasizes the need for inclusivity and understanding in navigating diverse perspectives, ultimately advocating for a more open and accepting society.

Keywords

Hamilton, No True Scotsman, belonging, identity, purity tests, empathy, curiosity, social movements, community, inclusion

Takeaways

Hamilton is a cultural masterpiece that resonates across age groups. The No True Scotsman fallacy highlights how definitions can be manipulated to protect beliefs. Belonging is a fundamental human need that can lead to gatekeeping behaviors. Purity tests often stem from fear and can create division within communities. Emotional awareness is crucial for understanding our biases and beliefs. Curiosity can deepen connections and foster inclusivity. Empathy allows for more meaningful conversations and understanding. Rigid beliefs can hinder personal growth and community development. Inclusivity can exist alongside standards without creating barriers. The dynamic nature of identity requires openness to diverse experiences.

Sound bites

"It's a purity test that has no definition." "We have combat instead of conflict." "It's about protecting your comfort."

Chapters

00:00 The Cultural Impact of Hamilton 03:04 Understanding the No True Scotsman Fallacy 05:44 Belonging and Identity in Social Movements 08:24 Purity Tests and Their Consequences 11:15 Navigating Emotional Awareness and Resilience 14:05 The Role of Curiosity in Community Building 16:29 The Semi-Permeable Nature of Identity 18:52 Conclusion: Embracing Diversity and Connection

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