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What does it mean to truly embrace who you are--beyond labels, beyond shame, beyond the story you've been told about yourself?

In this powerful and passionate episode of The Rebel Clinicians, John Cottrell and Jerry Buie explore the liberating journey of radical self-acceptance as gay men. With warmth, wisdom, and wit, they challenge the cultural conditioning that limits queer expression and offer an expansive vision of healing, identity, and queer empowerment.

From sacred sexuality and tantra to the stories we build around trauma, this episode calls listeners to recalibrate how they see themselves--not by the body they live in or the roles they perform, but by the magic they carry. You'll hear provocative reflections on:

- Why vulnerability can feel scarier than nudity

- How sexuality, spirituality, and queerness intersect as sacred

- The difference between being accepted and accepting yourself

- How to reclaim your power by naming your unique gifts

- Why breaking your own mold might be the most radical act of all

John and Jerry also ask a vital question: What would your Grindr profile say if it described your soul?

Join the conversation and reconnect with your own capacity for freedom, joy, and embodied queerness.

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What does it mean to truly embrace who you are--beyond labels, beyond shame, beyond the story you've been told about yourself?

In this powerful and passionate episode of The Rebel Clinicians, John Cottrell and Jerry Buie explore the liberating journey of radical self-acceptance as gay men. With warmth, wisdom, and wit, they challenge the cultural conditioning that limits queer expression and offer an expansive vision of healing, identity, and queer empowerment.

@mindfully_gay (Instagram)

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🎙️ Mindfully Gay Podcast -- Episode Title: "What Is A Good Gay?"

Air Date: Friday, June 20, 2025

What does it really mean to be a "good gay"?

In this powerful new episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, John and Jerry wrestle with this loaded question--one that emerged during a retreat Jerry hosted with queer men from a wide range of backgrounds, cultures, and generations. Inspired by their honest, soul-searching conversations, the hosts bring this provocative topic to the table.

Together, they explore how the idea of a "good gay" is shaped by social expectations, cultural conditioning, and even internalized stereotypes within the LGBTQ+ community. They dive into the impact of heteronormative behavior, gay panic, and the pressure to "perform" a certain kind of gayness--whether that means being fabulous, fit, politically active, masculine, or palatable to others.

From identity policing to the perpetuation of harmful tropes, Jerry and John examine how the queer community sometimes mirrors the very norms it seeks to challenge. They don't promise easy answers--but they do open a space for honest reflection, thoughtful questions, and new possibilities for what queer authenticity could look like.

🔊 Listen to the full audio episode on [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com) or [Spotify](https://spotify.com)

📺 Watch the full video episode on YouTube at [Mindfully Gay Podcast](https://youtube.com/@MindfullyGayPodcast)

💬 After you listen, we'd love to hear from you: How would YOU answer the question -- "What is a good gay?"

🗓️ New episodes drop every Friday. Be sure to subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube so you never miss a conversation.

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