In this essay I talk about how the romantic game of man the pursuer and woman the pursued leads to romantic misinterpretations. This turns this game into man the predator and woman the victim. Find out why this happens and what we can start doing about it.

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In this essay I introduce the fundamental premise of pickup artistry as, "I suck at talking to women, and I want to learn how so that they are excited about the possibility of sex or romance with me."

I then introduce one of the most popular romantic games - man the pursuer, woman the pursued - and how it can reinforce beliefs about man the predator and woman the victim. Given the fundamental premise of pickup, you can likely see how even that positive premise can begin to go awry when its placed within such a romantic game.

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In this video I continue my reconstruction of pickup artistry by addressing the fact that men are not often given grace for their struggles in dating. We are often framed as villains for not knowing how to flirt, but then not given any real education. Is it any wonder when we seek help from the very same men who cause many of the problems that women vilify all men for?

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I’ve struggled with social anxiety my entire life—sometimes so intensely that even walking into a party could trigger dissociation or a panic attack. So, how are men like me supposed to navigate dating, flirting, and romance in today’s world?

According to Alex of Date Psych, over 50% of men haven’t approached a woman in the past year, and 86% report being single due to poor flirting skills. Yet, 77% of women aged 18–30 say they want to be approached more often. Clearly, something deeper is going on beneath the surface of modern dating culture.

This video marks the beginning of my new series, “Reconstructing Pickup Artistry,” where I explore:

Why pickup culture both exposes and worsens men’s confusion about intimacy

How incels, “naturals,” and the “creepy guy” reveal a larger social crisis

Why men’s fear of social consequences stops them from developing real romantic skills

How we can build a post-patriarchal approach to dating education rooted in care, competence, and respect

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Pickup artistry promises to turn lonely, awkward men into charismatic “alpha males” who can attract beautiful women. But what if the real machinery behind pickup isn’t empowerment, but a system that dehumanizes intimacy, reduces women to technical problems, and traps men in a cycle of conformity and shame?

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When was the last time you truly changed your mind?

Not just swapping one opinion for another—but having your entire worldview disrupted, forcing you to reimagine who you are and the kind of life you want to live. In this video, I explore the psychology of worldview change—why it’s so hard, how our beliefs shape (and blind) us, and what it really takes to break free from ideological traps like Red Pill and toxic self-improvement culture.

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In this conversation, Dani Banchev and I talk about masculinity through the lenses of sexual polarity, psychological development, masculine and feminine energy, and meta-ideological perspectives.

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The Inner Compass Blueprint to Authentic Autonomy:

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Is Red Pill ideology steering men and women toward a cosmological dead-end? Discover how developmental psychology, the psychology of agency and communion, and meta-ideological thinking expose the blind spots in Rollo Tomassi’s “rational male” narrative and reveal a richer path for modern masculinity.

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