CALLING ALL COACHES: What if your coaching practice felt sustainable, values-aligned, and deeply yours? Join feminist coaches Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown for a free workshop on Feb. 25th to learn 3 essentials for building a practice that lasts, and to draft your own liberatory coaching manifesto. Sign up at https://messyliberation.com/

In this episode, we unpack a real-time messy situation that started with a classroom conversation about language, and quickly spiraled into social media backlash, reflection, and deeper questions about responsibility. We explore the difference between calling in and calling out, why language matters when teaching history, and what it looks like when people respond to feedback with humility. Along the way, we talk about parenting, educator accountability, online criticism, and the ongoing work of holding nuance in public conversations, plus a lighter detour into Olympic drama and what it reveals about pressure, humanity, and expectations.

Discussed in this episode:

• A messy moment: reaching out to a teacher about language
• When social media amplifies conflict
• Calling in vs public accountability
• Why “enslaved people” vs “slaves” matters
• Black history as shared history and responsibility
• Educator responses and learning in public
• Navigating trolls and criticism
• Emotional maturity, pressure, and public scrutiny
• Olympics tangent: performance, humanity, and expectations
• Invitation to practice nuance in hard conversations

🎤 JOIN US IN THE FEMINIST PODCASTERS COLLECTIVE

In this episode of Messy Liberation, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown start with the cultural moment — unpacking the Bad Bunny halftime performance — and end up somewhere deeper: a conversation about care, creativity, and what it means to live inside systems that don’t value our humanity.

They explore revenge bedtime procrastination, why so many of us push the things we love to the edges of our day, and how capitalism teaches us to dismiss anything that doesn’t generate income. Becky shares a personal story about caring for her injured dog and the emotional labor that often goes unseen — especially in relationships — while Taina reflects on creative work, attention, and honoring what matters.

Together, they ask big questions:

• What if hobbies aren’t frivolous?
• What if care work is real work?
• What does it look like to honor our emotional lives instead of minimizing them?
• And how do we navigate relationships when we experience the world differently?

This conversation weaves culture, feminism, mental health, and lived experience into an honest exploration of being human in a productivity-obsessed world.

If you’ve ever stayed up too late chasing a moment of freedom… felt unseen in your care work… or wondered why rest feels so hard to claim — this one’s for you.

🎤 JOIN US IN THE FEMINIST PODCASTERS COLLECTIVE

This conversation is specifically for people who practice coaching or run coaching businesses (no certification required). Becky and Taina unpack how well-meaning coaches can unintentionally repeat patterns of harm rooted in capitalism, patriarchy, and white supremacy — even when they genuinely care about their clients.

They introduce a framework for building a liberatory coaching practice that centers identity, power, privilege, community, and care — not just goals, outcomes, or productivity. The episode also previews the interactive workshop happening February 25, where participants will begin building their own Liberatory Coaching Manifesto.

This isn’t about gatekeeping, hustle, or “fixing” clients. It’s about practicing coaching in a way that expands choice, agency, and humanity — for both coaches and the people they serve.

• What liberatory coaching actually means
• How coaching can unintentionally reinforce harmful systems
• Why phrases like “limiting beliefs” and “we all have the same 24 hours” can cause harm
• The role of identity, power, and privilege in coaching spaces
• Why community is essential to sustainable coaching work
• What a Liberatory Coaching Manifesto is — and why you’ll build one
• How to practice coaching without gatekeeping or hustle culture
• Why this work can’t be done alone

Build Your Liberatory Coaching Manifesto (free, live workshop)

• February 25 at 12pm Eastern on Zoom
• Replay available only to those who sign up

Sign-up for free at messyliberation.com.

🎤 PROUD MEMBERS OF THE FEMINIST PODCASTERS COLLECTIVE: http://feministpodcastcollective.com/

From neighbors shoveling driveways to the quiet labor of holding community spaces, this episode explores how care becomes invisible, and how naming it can be radical. Becky shares a story about hosting invitation-only “secret salons” and grappling with the discomfort of being compensated for community-building work. Taina reflects on moments when emotional labor was unexpectedly acknowledged—and how powerful that recognition can be.

The conversation expands into privilege, power, and relationships: what it means when someone checks their privilege out loud, how that can change the nervous system in a room, and why pretending we’re “past” bias is far more dangerous than admitting it exists. They also talk about gendered entitlement, “support husbands,” emotional safety, and the exhausting reality of always wondering when contempt might surface.

• What mutual aid looks like in everyday life (and why it’s not charity)
• Snowstorms, disability, aging, and who gets left behind
• The invisible labor of care, organizing, and community-building
• Why being seen matters as much as being paid
• Emotional labor, race, gender, and power dynamics
• Checking privilege—and why it changes the room
• Supportive partnerships vs. entitled masculinity
• Why “I’d never do that” is a red flag
• Capitalism, commodification, and collective responsibility
• How acknowledgment can be an act of liberation

Resource:

• "Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next)" by Dean Spade

🎤 WE ARE PROUD MEMBERS OF THE FEMINIST PODCASTERS COLLECTIVE

Check out the Season 10 trailer for Here’s What I Learned with Jacki Hayes, a fellow member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective.

This season is built around real experiments. Jacki isn’t just talking about ideas. She’s inviting coaches and service providers to assign her an actual experiment from their area of expertise. She runs it in her business, then they come back together to break down what worked, what didn’t, and what the results actually show.

If you like practical insight, honest reflection, and learning from real-world tests instead of polished theories, this season is worth a listen.

Find the show wherever you listen to podcasts or visit https://www.jackihayes.co/podcast

NOTE: This episode was recorded before the murder of Alex Pretti in Minneapolis. Our hearts are with his family and we share your outrage about his murder. Abolish ICE.

In this episode of Messy Liberation, Becky and Taina sit inside two overlapping kinds of grief: personal loss and collective unraveling. Becky names the heavy, destabilizing grief of watching U.S. power erode on the global stage—and what it means to confront the loss of privilege, safety, and certainty in real time. Taina shares the complicated aftermath of her mother’s death, including the anger, relief, and dissonance that come from being told a story about someone that doesn’t match your lived experience.

Together, they explore grief as a political and embodied experience, the difference between healthy and harmful anger, and why being “aware” isn’t enough without guardrails, resourcing, and community. This episode is about naming the mess without rushing to fix it—and learning how to stay human when the world makes it very tempting not to.

🧠 Discussed in This Episode
• The grief of losing global privilege—and why it still matters even when privilege is complicated
• Why awareness without action (or guardrails) can keep us stuck
• Seasonal depression, political despair, and “who gives a shit” energy
• Resource mapping as a tool for emotional regulation and capacity
• Healthy anger vs. destructive anger—and why movements can’t survive on rage alone
• Parenting, power dynamics, and what under-resourcing does to relationships
• Complicated grief after the death of an abusive or estranged parent
• The dissonance of hearing glowing stories about someone who harmed you
• Relief as a valid response to death—and why that doesn’t mean you didn’t love them
• Dehumanization, polarization, and the cost of refusing to seek understanding
• Why systems benefit when we fight each other instead of looking up

🎤 WE ARE PROUD MEMBERS OF THE FEMINIST PODCASTERS COLLECTIVE: http://feministpodcastcollective.com/

In this episode of Messy Liberation, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown dive into a layered, messy, and necessary conversation about storytelling, race, motherhood, power, and who gets centered when Hollywood tells “political” stories.

Using three recent releases as our jumping-off point — Sinners, One Battle After Another, and His and Hers — we unpack what happens when art claims to be subversive… and whether it actually is.

We talk about:

• Why Sinners feels intentionally campy, unapologetically political, and rooted in Black culture, music, ancestry, and collective survival
• How One Battle After Another leans on harmful tropes about Black motherhood, revolutionary violence, and white male centrality — and why “satire” isn’t a get-out-of-harm-free card
• The racial reframing of His and Hers and how changing the main characters to Black women fundamentally shifts the story’s meaning, stakes, and power
• Who gets empathy, who gets invisibility, and who’s expected to carry the labor — on screen and off
• Why representation alone isn’t enough, and why who tells the story matters just as much as what story gets told

This is a spoiler-heavy episode that assumes you’ve either watched these films or are okay hearing the full critique. It’s also an honest conversation about discomfort, trigger warnings, and the exhaustion of watching your lived experience turned into “prestige art” for someone else’s enlightenment.

If you care about media literacy, liberatory storytelling, and calling bullshit when “art” punches down — this one’s for you.

🎤 WE'RE PROUD MEMBERS OF THE FEMINIST PODCASTERS COLLECTIVE

Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown dig into the U.S. military action in Venezuela, and why calling it “surprising” misses the point entirely. What’s happening in Venezuela isn’t new. What is new is how little the U.S. is pretending anymore.

Discussed in this episode:

• Why the U.S. arrest and removal of Venezuela’s leader is colonialism, not “law enforcement”
• How oil, capitalism, and empire are always the through-line
• The danger of pretending America is a neutral or moral global authority
• Why “how you do anything is how you do everything” applies to geopolitics
• The direct connection between capitalism, rape culture, and power grabs
• Why nuance matters—and why refusing false binaries is not the same as defending dictators
• How white discomfort gets mislabeled as “lack of safety”
• Why joking about colonization isn’t harmless (and what listening actually looks like)
• What it means to be able to critique U.S. actions without claiming expertise over other nations

RESOURCE: Original Sins: The (Mis)education of Black and Native Children and the Construction of American Racism by Eve L. Ewing

They also wrestle in real time with fear, grief, learning out loud, and the possibility that America’s increasing global isolation may be both terrifying and inevitable.

This conversation isn’t tidy. It’s not optimistic. But it is honest—and rooted in the belief that refusing empire starts with telling the truth about it.

Next episode preview: Becky and Taina shift gears (a little) to talk about Sinners and One Battle After Another during awards season—with opinions they already know won’t be universally loved.

🎤 WE'RE PROUD MEMBERS OF THE FEMINIST PODCASTERS COLLECTIVE