Mental Load, Resentment & the Fair Play Method with Valerie Recore | Ep. 88

Motherhood today isn’t just exhausting. It’s mentally relentless.

In this episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast, I sit down with Valerie Recore, productivity coach for moms and certified Fair Play facilitator, to unpack what’s really happening beneath the surface of modern parenting.

This isn’t a conversation about doing more, delegating better, or “just asking for help.” It’s about the mental load, the invisible labor, and the emotional weight mothers carry, often even when partners are willing and well-intentioned.

We explore why this generation of mothers feels uniquely overwhelmed, why comparison culture intensifies burnout, and how resentment quietly builds inside relationships when responsibility isn’t truly shared from beginning to end.

You’ll hear why asking “What do you need me to do?” can actually make things worse.. and how tools like the Fair Play Method shift couples from fighting each other to working together against the problem.

This episode is especially for couples navigating parenthood, identity shifts, and the silent tension that grows when one partner becomes the default manager of life.

It’s honest. It’s validating. And it’s deeply practical.

Today we explore:

1. Why the mental load isn’t about tasks - it’s about constant vigilance
2. How “help” can still leave mothers feeling alone and resentful
3. What the Fair Play Method actually changes inside relationships
4. Why values, flexibility, and emotional safety matter more than perfection

🎧 If you’ve ever thought “Why am I so tired even when I’m not doing everything?” — this conversation will feel like a deep exhale.

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ABOUT VALERIE RECORE

Valerie Recore is a productivity coach and a Certified Fair Play Method Facilitator. She teaches moms how to get it all done because nobody should feel like they’re failing at motherhood. Whether they work full-time, stay home full-time, or fall somewhere in between, moms call her when they’re ready to stop sacrificing their health and relationships to get it all done. Through their work together, moms start feeling more present with their families and go to bed knowing they focused on their goals.

How to Connect with Valerie:

website: https://strideproductivity.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strideproductivity/

10-Minute Task Triage: https://expert-innovator-4217.kit.com/63e9ecbed6

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Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com