Mens Stuff #3 When Is It Time to Go? (40)

Balancing what you know and what you believe. The questions that no one talks about.

The Bible presents marriage as a sacred, lifelong covenant, established by God and reflecting the profound unity and commitment expected between spouses, upheld by love, faithfulness, and divine authority.

The sunk-cost fallacy in this setting is the tendency of Christian men to remain in relationships primarily to avoid "wasting" prior investments—time, effort, commitment—rather than making choices based on what is spiritually and relationally healthy moving forward. This cognitive bias, intertwined with faith-based duties and fears, can make leaving difficult even when it may be the most loving and wise decision.

It is generally not healthy or advisable to stay long-term in relationships that are persistently unhealthy or unfulfilling. However, remaining temporarily may be justified when circumstances such as safety, financial or caregiving dependencies, or a genuine mutual commitment to change exist. The decision to stay should be grounded in clear-eyed self-assessment, realistic expectations of improvement, personal safety, and prioritization of emotional well-being. Staying with hope or fear alone, without tangible progress or support, often causes prolonged harm.

Men are indeed victims of domestic and intimate partner violence, despite common misconceptions that abuse mainly affects women. Studies show that about 1 in 4 men will experience some form of physical abuse during their lifetime, and as many as 1 in 3 men have experienced sexual violence, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner.

Important Resources to Consider

National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone] (confidential 24/7 support)

Therapy and counseling services specializing in relationship recovery

Legal advice for protection or custody matters if applicable

Prayer still works.