If you’ve ever tried to talk to your spouse about the mental load and ended up feeling more frustrated than before, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong. So many couples want to share the load more fairly, but there are hidden barriers that make these conversations stall out or spiral into conflict.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the main reasons why dads often don’t step in, why moms end up carrying it all by default, and what keeps these conversations from moving forward. More importantly, I’ll walk you through how to recognize the specific barriers in your relationship so you can finally shift the dynamic and feel like a team again.

Tune in to discover:

• Why men often don’t recognize the mental load in the first place

• How default “factory settings” after kids leave moms carrying more than their share

• Why asking for help still leaves you holding the invisible weight

• The role of defensiveness in shutting conversations down

• What to focus on instead so you can break the cycle and build more equity at home

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Sometimes the most powerful shifts in marriage come from hearing what other couples are struggling with (and how they’re working through it). That’s why in this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes and sharing the exact conversations I’m having with my clients right now.

These are the patterns, perspective shifts, and tools that come up over and over again, no matter what stage of marriage someone is in. From unmet needs to the mental load to feeling stuck in the same cycle, these conversations are the ones that bring the biggest breakthroughs. And today, I want you to benefit from them too.

Tune in to discover:

• Why perspective shifts are one of the most underutilized tools in marriage

• How unmet needs and resentment can keep you stuck in painful cycles

• Why “just talking about it” often isn’t the work, and what actually is

• The importance of having the right tools and systems, not just good intentions

• The top mindset shift I teach my clients that changes everything

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

So many couples struggle with resentment, overwhelm, and burnout after kids, even when both partners are “doing a lot.” My guest today, Paige Connell, has become a powerful voice on the realities of the mental load, time equity, and the systemic stress that weighs families down. Her candid, relatable storytelling has reached millions, and today she’s breaking down how she and her husband shifted from frustration to fairness in their marriage.

In this conversation, we talk about why it’s not just about who does the chores, but how couples view time, money, and responsibility. Paige shares her own journey of redefining equity at home, why small moments like forgetting to refill the soap carry so much weight, and how to start having conversations that actually move the needle in your relationship. If you’ve ever wondered why it feels like everything defaults to you (and how to change that), this episode is a must-listen.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How Paige and her husband faced their own reckoning with the mental load

• Why resentment often builds even when both partners are “helping”

• The hidden weight of time equity and how society undervalues unpaid labor

• Practical shifts that turn daily fights into collaborative logistics

• Why creating equity at home frees up space for joy, fun, and a stronger marriage

Connect with Paige:

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Connect with Lindsay:

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids