Are you exhausted from trying to change your husband or wife? Do you feel like if they'd just listen, everything would be better? You're not alone—and you might be making it worse.

In this episode of Marriage Monthly, Gabe and Melissa sit down with longtime friends Max and Freda Calderon—married 28 years, blended family, and a story that almost didn't make it. They share the hard-won lessons that kept them together when giving up felt easier, and why the thing most of us do to "help" our spouse is actually pushing them away.

Key Points Discussed:

• Why trying to be your spouse's Holy Spirit is destroying your connection—and what to do instead
• The controversial truth about putting your kids before your marriage (and why it backfires)
• How shared adventures and new experiences create real intimacy—backed by research
• Why becoming a Christian doesn't flip a switch on your marriage problems
• The power of community, accountability, and actually taking the counsel you're given
• What blended families need to understand about timelines and unrealistic expectations

Bible Verses Referenced:

• Philippians 2:3–4 — Consider others above yourself
• Proverbs 27:17 — Iron sharpens iron
• Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 — Two are better than one
• Ephesians 5:25 — Husbands, love your wives.

💬 What's one thing you've been trying to "fix" in your spouse that you might need to hand over to God? Drop it in the comments.

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Romance is great, but it’s not what keeps a marriage strong. In this Love Month episode, we’re shifting the focus from “be romantic” to “be selfless”—because most marriages don’t fall apart from incompatibility… they fall apart from selfishness. If you’ve felt off-track lately, overwhelmed, or stuck in tension, this episode is a jolt back on track.

Discover

• Why “me over we” creates constant friction in marriage
• How conflict is often about unmet desires, not the surface issue
• The simple shift that makes love feel real again: you first = we first
• What we learned from hosting a Love Challenge Date Night (10 fun challenges!)
• Why love is a verb and how your heart follows your actions
• How to build a “competition of honor” that makes marriage fun again
• Practical ways to say yes more often and short-circuit selfishness
• A weekly Love Dare: one intentional act of selflessness every day

Key Points Discussed

• “Real love is not me first—it’s you first.”
• “Marriage becomes fun again when it becomes a competition of honor.”
• “Love doesn’t insist on its own way—so we interrupt selfishness on purpose.”

Bible Verses Mentioned

• James 4:1
• Philippians 2:3
• Romans 12:10
• Ephesians 5:25
• 1 Corinthians 13:5

Question for you

Where have you been putting me over we, and what’s one small way you can put your spouse first this week?

Call to Action

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Division is everywhere—politics, social media, opinions, and constant noise competing for our attention. And if we’re not careful, that division doesn’t just stay “out there”… it finds its way into our marriages.

In this January 2026 episode of Marriage Monthly, we talk honestly about how couples can stay united in a divided world. We explore why so many marriages are being discipled more by headlines than Scripture—and how refocusing on shared values, respect, and intentional connection can bring strength, peace, and unity back into your relationship.

This conversation is practical, faith-filled, and deeply encouraging for couples navigating today’s cultural tension together.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why division outside your marriage often creates division inside it
• How shared values matter more than shared preferences
• Practical ways to respect differences without letting them divide you
• Ground rules for healthy conflict that protect unity
• Why bonding memories are one of the most powerful tools for marriage
• How to be proactive instead of reactive in strengthening your relationship

What is one step you and your spouse can take this week to focus more on what unites you than what divides you?

If this episode encouraged you, take a moment to like, subscribe, and share it with another couple who could use it. And let us know in the comments—what helps your marriage stay united in a divided world?

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