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In this powerful and deeply relatable conversation, Kathy Love sits down with Brian Sacheta, author of Get Out of Your Head, to talk about anxiety, looping thoughts, nervous system regulation, and what real self-care actually looks like when your mind won’t slow down.

Brian doesn’t come at mental health from a clinical or textbook place. He comes from lived experience—years of panic attacks, OCD, overthinking, and learning how to function in a world that didn’t leave much room (especially for men) to talk about feelings.

Together, Kathy and Brian unpack:

• Why anxiety loops happen
• How our brains are wired for survival—not modern life
• Why logic alone won’t calm an anxious nervous system
• And how movement, compassion, and awareness can interrupt the spiral

This episode is honest, practical, and grounding—especially if you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just stop thinking like this?”

✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why anxiety is a protective mechanism, not a personal failure
• How the fight-or-flight response shows up in modern stress (hello, performance reviews 👀)
• What it really means to “get out of your head”
• Why movement and breath are often more effective than positive thinking
• How to recognize when you’re stuck in a mental loop—and how to gently interrupt it
• Why talking to yourself like a trusted friend matters more than you think

🧠 Brian’s Core Framework: The 10 Steps to Getting Out of Your Head

Brian shares insights from his book, including:

• Moving your body or eyes to signal safety to your nervous system
• Using breath to bring your prefrontal cortex back online
• Evaluating all possible outcomes—not just the worst-case scenario
• Reconnecting with compassion instead of self-criticism

This isn’t about “fixing” yourself.
It’s about learning how to work with your brain instead of fighting it.

💬 A Moment That Really Landed

🤍 Who This Episode Is For

• Anyone living with anxiety, overthinking, or looping thoughts
• Men who were never given language for emotional experiences
• People who are tired of being told to “just calm down”
• Anyone ready to practice self-care that’s grounded, realistic, and human

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In this powerful and validating episode of My Self Care Sh*t, Kathy Love sits down with Dianne, a coach and author, for an honest conversation about emotional abuse, self-gaslighting, codependency, and rebuilding self-trust.

Dianne shares her personal journey through two divorces, including an emotionally abusive marriage that left her deeply confused, disconnected from herself, and doubting her own reality. Together, Kathy and Dianne unpack why emotional abuse is so hard to recognize, why people stay, and how healing begins—not with answers, but with awareness.

This episode is a reminder that confusion is not a personal failure.
It’s a signal.
And learning to trust yourself again is real self-care.

✨ What We Talk About

• Why confusion is one of the biggest red flags in unhealthy relationships
• Emotional abuse vs. physical abuse—and why emotional abuse is often minimized
• Self-gaslighting and how it slowly erodes self-trust
• The fixer / helper identity and how it keeps people stuck
• Shame, denial, and protecting a partner at your own expense
• Trauma bonding, love bombing, and lack of pacing early in relationships
• Rebuilding self-trust after emotional harm
• Why self-love and self-care are the foundation of healing
• Forgiving yourself for what you didn’t see sooner
• Choosing peace over appearances, money, or comfort

🧠 Key Takeaways

• If you’re confused, something matters
• You can love yourself and still abandon yourself
• Emotional abuse is real—even when it leaves no visible marks
• Self-trust is usually the last thing to return
• Healing is ongoing, not something you “arrive” at
• Peace is worth everything

📖 About Diane

Dianne Harris is a life coach who supports people healing from emotionally abusive relationships and rebuilding their sense of self. She is also the author of the upcoming memoir Love Bomb, a ten-year journey of love, denial, awakening, and choosing herself. Dianne works with both women and men and is passionate about bringing more awareness to the long-term impact of emotional abuse.

🎧 This Episode Is For You If:

• You feel constantly confused or second-guess yourself
• You don’t trust your instincts anymore
• You’ve been told “it’s not that bad”
• You stayed because you thought you could fix it
• You’re rebuilding after emotional harm
• You’re choosing peace—even if it costs you comfort

💙 Final Reflection

It’s amazing how little we’re willing to live with
just to have our peace back.

Take a breath.
Pay attention to what your confusion is telling you.
That awareness is self-care.

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In this deeply honest and emotional episode of My Self Care Shi*, Kathy Love sits down with her dear friend Chason for a raw conversation about addiction, trauma, forgiveness, worthiness, and what true self-care actually looks like when the mask finally comes off.

Chason shares his life journey—from childhood abuse, addiction, homelessness, and survival, to healing, service, and founding Transformation Kitchen—a nonprofit built on dignity, community, and second chances. This conversation is about what happens when we stop performing strength and start paying attention to the pendulum inside us.

This episode is a reminder that self-care isn’t pretty.
It’s honest.
It’s brave.
And sometimes, it’s choosing to pause instead of pushing harder.

✨ What We Talk About

• Growing up in trauma and learning to survive
• Addiction, recovery, and forgiving yourself
• The danger of “partial healing”
• The monkey on your shoulder (and how to quiet it)
• Why journaling, brain dumps, and pausing actually work
• The moment someone paid it forward—and changed everything
• Building Transformation Kitchen as a trauma-informed nonprofit
• Letting people see your why
• Catching the pendulum before it swings too far
• Why true self-care means staying aware, not perfect

🧠 Key Takeaways

• You can be high-functioning and still drowning
• Self-care only works when you do all the work
• Forgiveness starts with yourself
• Awareness is healing
• Community saves lives
• Pausing is power

❤️ About My Guest

Chason Forehand is the visionary Founder behind two mission-driven organizations: HR Consultations, a boutique HR firm dedicated exclusively to empowering Social Good Entities, and HR-4U INC., a trailblazing Nonprofit committed to economic justice. Through bold advocacy and their groundbreaking Transformation Kitchen™️ program, HR-4U INC. champions living wages and workforce dignity for marginalized communities turning opportunity into lasting impact. "They don't just flip eggs, they flip lives."

🌱 Mentioned in This Episode

• The Outlier Project
• Rayo de Sol
• Journaling & brain dumps as daily self-care tools
• Recovery communities and the power of asking for help

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🌊 Final Invitation

Before you rush to the next thing—
Take one minute.
Breathe.
Pay attention to where your pendulum is today.

That is self-care.

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