Max and Matt break down one of parenting’s hardest skills, keeping your cool when everything’s falling apart. They talk about why kids always seem to test your patience at the worst times, what those triggers are actually teaching you, and how to recover after you blow up. From dad guilt to morning chaos to practical tools that actually help, this one’s a mix of real talk, science, and the kind of humor that makes you feel seen. Whether you’ve yelled at your kid today or just felt close, this episode is for every parent trying to stay calm and connected. Let’s gooo!

Timestamps:
0:00 – Intro & Catch-Up
2:45 – Losing Patience Moments

6:10 – Why We Snap
10:25 – Repair After Anger
14:00 – Dad Guilt Explained
18:15 – Triggers & Awareness
22:30 – Staying Calm Tips
27:45 – When to Apologize
33:00 – Letting Go Grace
36:03 – Closing Thoughts

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Max and Matt dive into the messy middle ground of parenting as a team, when to be a united front, and when it’s okay (even good) to be different. Sparked by a spicy Instagram post, they unpack what happens when one parent loosens the rules while the other holds the line, and why those differences might actually teach kids resilience. From solo weekends with the kids, to pizza dinners and Dave & Buster’s meltdowns, to the hidden pressures moms and dads face when parenting alone, they bring stories, studies, and plenty of laughs. They also break down research on authoritative vs. authoritarian parenting, how consistency shapes kids’ brains, and why the most important thing might just be that your child goes to bed knowing they’re loved. Let’s gooo!

Timestamps:
0:00 Intro & Dave & Buster’s Chaos
3:10 The Instagram Post That Sparked It
7:45 Solo Parenting: Dad vs. Mom Styles
13:20 Do Kids Need a United Front?
19:05 Parenting Styles in Research
25:50 The “Easy Kid” Study & Harsh Parenting
30:40 Why Predictability Shapes Kids’ Brains
35:15 Communication & Avoiding Parenting Resentment
39:37 Closing Thoughts

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Max and Matt dive deeper into the chaos of youth sports this time focusing on the scoreboards, standings, and the paradox of winning. They break down why so many leagues avoid keeping score, how that overcorrection misses the point, and what kids actually learn from wins and losses. From family dinners lost to the club system, to the pressure of turning every child into the next Messi or LeBron, they unpack the real purpose of youth sports: joy, community, and learning to compete without tying your worth to the outcome. With stories from City League, shoutouts to multi-sport athletes, and a few hilarious detours (including puppies and Red Bull cans), this episode challenges the broken system and imagines a better way forward for kids and families.

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