There are three essential skills that often get left out of our upbringing—and they are crucial to creating a thriving, connected relationship.

Skills like:

• Introspective questioning—so you can understand why you think, feel, and operate the way you do, and start asking: What if I’m wrong about this?
• Perspective taking—so you can stop assuming the worst and start seeing the logic in your partner’s experience.
• And truly listening to understand—so that curiosity, not defensiveness, becomes your default.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into these foundational shifts—what they are, why they matter, and how they can completely change the way you show up in your marriage.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep having the same arguments, or why your good intentions still lead to misunderstandings, this episode is going to give you a fresh lens and powerful new tools.

And if you are looking for help creating positive change in your marriage and would like professional help, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

So many of the ways we show up in our relationships—how we communicate, how we love, how we cope—aren’t actually conscious choices.

They’re inherited. Programmed. Conditioned from what we saw, experienced, or learned growing up.

In this episode, we’re talking about three ways of being you may have learned that are quietly wrecking the quality of your relationships—and your own personal peace.

You’ll hear how these patterns show up:

-When you’re constantly blaming others but feeling stuck

-When love becomes a reward instead of a reflection of who you want to be

-When avoiding your emotions becomes your way of coping—but keeps you disconnected from your own life

This is about unlearning the old survival strategies and stepping into a more grounded, emotionally resilient, and soul-aligned version of yourself.

It’s not easy work, but it’s the kind of work that changes everything.



If you’ve been feeling unfulfilled, irritated, or just tired of the way things feel in your marriage or within yourself—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we’re unpacking exactly what happens when the anxious partner brings up an issue…and the avoidant partner immediately feels overwhelmed, blamed, or like they’re walking into another argument they didn’t ask for.

You’ll learn:

• What each partner is really thinking underneath the surface
• Why emotional safety is the missing ingredient that keeps you both stuck in this cycle
• And what to do instead—whether you’re the one bringing up the issue, or the one on the receiving end of it

We’ll also talk about what it means to be a wounded partner vs. a wounding partner—and how this shift in mindset can change the tone of your conversations and help you actually hear and be heard.

If your marriage feels like one long loop of misunderstanding and miscommunication, and you’re both tired of repeating the same fight with different words…

This episode will give you a new perspective—and the tools to finally begin creating connection, instead of more conflict.

And for more help on creating more productive conversations and using your communication to bring you CLOSER as a couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/