Love Languages, Without the Fluff

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Ever wonder why some gestures land and others miss by a mile? We went beyond the memes and took a full love language quiz—yes, we even paid for the results—then held the mirror up to our past relationships, boundaries, and blind spots. The numbers were revealing: acts of service and quality time rose to the top for both of us, receiving gifts carried quiet power as thoughtfulness, and words of affirmation got messy when trust had been broken. From oil changes and fixed deadbolts to planned date nights and tiny, perfectly chosen presents, we traced how genuine effort builds safety where big speeches can’t.

We talk about why action beats promise, how love bombing and gaslighting distort our response to compliments, and what it takes to rebuild belief in words. You’ll hear real stories about being hidden vs shown off, quitting jobs on someone’s “I’ll take care of you” and learning to require follow-through, and the slow skill of spotting red flags sooner. We also add a “sixth” love language—call it inclusion—the everyday practice of being looped into plans and decisions so closeness doesn’t depend on constant proximity. If you’ve ever felt unseen despite hearing sweet talk, this conversation will help you name what you need and ask for it clearly.

Along the way, we contrast how we give love vs how we receive it, and why that mismatch doesn’t make anyone wrong—it just makes communication essential. Expect practical examples, honest laughs, and a few hard-earned lessons on effort, attention, and trust. If you’re ready to align what you value with how you love, press play, take what resonates, and share your top two love languages with us. And if this episode hit home, follow the show, send it to a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review so more listeners can find us.

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