Love Is A Verb, Not A Vibe

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What if the difference between a forgettable marriage and a fierce, lifelong partnership comes down to a few clear definitions and a handful of daily habits? We cut through the noise to explain why love fades for so many people—and how to make yours burn brighter with time, not dimmer.

First, we get honest about the odds and the cause: most of us never learned how to love. So we define it. Love isn’t a mood; it’s the emotional pleasure you feel when you focus on your partner’s virtues and keep associating them with those virtues. From there, we walk through the four phases of love: the initial crush, the research phase where listening beats looks, the moment of commitment, and the deep promise of never leaving—accepting that while someone else may be “better” on paper, your person is perfect for you.

We also reframe marriage as a merger of souls rather than a partnership that tallies points. Scorekeeping kills warmth; mergers protect the whole. Then we tackle the four parts of a relationship—physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual—and why most “physical problems” are actually emotional neglect. You’ll hear the four A’s that build connection (attention, affection, appreciation, awareness) and three crucial questions to ask before you commit: real attraction, a shared meaningful purpose that outlasts children and careers, and the respect-or-love litmus tests that keep couples steady when life shifts.

If you want practical, we deliver: listen to be chosen, date with clear intent, and make what matters to your partner matter to you—even when it feels small. Those daily signals say, I see you, I choose you, I’m not leaving. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs clarity, and leave a review telling us which phase you’re in and what you’ll practice this week.