“It’s called being alive. It’s what kind of life do you want? Do you want a slightly muted shut down life, or do you want a full spectrum life?” Jess Goyder

Jess Goyder and I explore grief as part of everyday human life, not just something linked to death or bereavement. We talk about loss, change, identity, leadership, and what it means to be fully alive. We talk about how grief is often misunderstood, sidelined or treated as disruption. Jess speaks about the cumulative nature of loss, the ways grief can show up as over-functioning, shutdown, numbness and the importance of having containers, spaces, people and places where what is real can be felt and named. We also talk about how grief shows up in the workplace. Jess shares why grief belongs in conversations about leadership - grief work is leadership work - and how unresolved grief is visible in the fabric of an organisation.

Jess Goyder knows grief – and how to build a life you can love alongside loss. A licensed Grief Recovery Specialist® with a Postgrad (Cert) in Psychodynamic Studies from Oxford, she trained with leading grief psychotherapist Francis Weller. Jess helps people from all walks of life – especially leaders and high performers – navigate bereavement, major transitions, illness, and other significant losses. Her work goes far beyond traditional counselling, guiding clients from coping to clarity, emotional resolution, and renewed engagement with life. With over a decade’s experience coaching executives at Adobe, Nestlé, Ogilvy, and Deutsche Bank, Jess also delivers powerful talks and workshops on recognising and addressing the personal and organisational effects of unresolved grief.

Connect with Jess:

Through her website: https://griefisnatural.com

On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jess-goyder

Resources Mentioned:

The Grief Recovery Method: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/

Leader as Healer by Nicholas Janni

David Whyte

"And if I can coach in a way where someone is really attuned to what's happening in their mind and body as one, not as two separate things, then I think, well, I've found it. It's just magical... They would kind of find themselves at their best. They go on to do things where they're, the phrase I like to use is, they're surprised by what they can do." Mike Porteous

Mike Porteous is an endurance sports coach and author of Beyond Belief: The art of confidence-centred coaching. But this episode isn't only about sport. It's about what happens when we stop trying to fix people and start paying attention to what's actually going on for them in their bodies, in the space between coach and athlete, in the moments before an event. Mike describes confidence not as a thing someone has or doesn't have, but as something much more. He speaks about thrill and anticipation, control and uncertainty, fluency and the kind of in-the-moment experience where we can lose and find ourselves at once. We talk about what it means to coach from presence and why the question "how did it feel?" matters far more than "how did it look?" There is also unexpected theme we touch on through this episode: beauty. We talk about being captured by something in front of us, feeling fully alive and the wonder that can arise when someone surprises themselves with what they can do.

Mike Porteous has zigzagged between various careers and life changes: from academia (DPhil research in Brazil); to government (leading major change programmes for business); and now to the world of sports coaching. He runs a private endurance coaching business, ZigZag Alive, alongside developing Confidence-Centred Coaching for coaches of all sports - captured in his recently published book Beyond Belief: the art of confidence-centred coaching. He mentors triathlon coaches, teaches disabled children swimming and is a co-host for monthly Wellbeing Dips in the sea. His personal philosophy starts with openness: to others, experiences, ideas and learning.

Connect with Mike

Through his website: www.zigzagconfidence.com

On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mike-porteous-11754235/

Resources Mentioned:

Beyond Belief: The art of confidence-centred coaching

Steven Rollnick and Motivational Interviewing

Alison Jones and Practical Inspiration Publishing

“Communication is all about connection, right? And getting your message across to your audience. And to do that effectively, you have to first connect with yourself….” Caroline Harvey

Caroline Harvey and I explore why impactful communication starts with connection. Caroline shares how “communicate better” can sound simple until you realise it asks something more personal: being connected to who you are and what matters to you because that’s what your audience feels, and responds to. We speak practically about starting with your audience, your objective and the message you want to get across whether you’re speaking up in a meeting, presenting or writing an email. We also speak about the role of preparation and practice and what it looks like to stop hiding behind a professional persona and speak as yourself. Caroline brings in story, metaphor, voice and presence - including her reflections on “voice and essence”, imposter syndrome and why trusting your story matters, especially in a world of AI.

Caroline Harvey is a communications mentor on a mission to help women leaders speak up, stand out, and spark change — in their careers, their companies, and beyond. She works especially with women in STEM, where too often brilliant work goes unseen, and voices go unheard. For Caroline, communication isn’t just a skill — it’s a powerful catalyst for recognition, empowerment, and impact. Originally from Wales, she’s lived and worked across Europe and in Japan, and now calls Barcelona home.

Connect with Caroline

www.carolineharvey.me

www.linkedin.com/in/caroharvey

Postcards with Presence podcast

Resources Mentioned

Episode 209 I Back Myself with Julie Smith

Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy