Lessons from the life and untimely death of Amy Winehouse after watching the movie Back to Black and also reading The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate. How nervous system dysregulation plays out in the life and how it inevitably takes its toll as we seek to calm our nervous system in any way we can.

Luckily with support and proper tools it IS possible to quell the anxiety that leads to all kinds of addictions. Learn how you can do this to re-connect to safety inside.

00:00 Intro - movie drama Back to Black about the life of Amy Winehouse and an interview with ex-husband Blake Fielder-Civil. Usually regarded as the 'bad boy' in the story, was also very young and dys-regulated (no family support)
02:40 The film shows a rather cosy view of her family but we know that she lacked support from her family also - her mother (ill), her father (somewhat childlike in many ways) and her Nan (the best emotional support she had but who sadly died at the height of Amy's fame). No wonder she was attracted to Blake and alcohol (and later hard drugs)
05:35 A more nuanced view is that she was lead to these adaptations /strategies to regulate the dys-regulated nervous system - the early life experience is the most important developer of our stress response
07:00 According to Gabor Mate in The Myth of Normal parents are both important but under-supported themselves, so it's no wonder that things go wrong - the neurological payoff of poor attachment is huge in the lifespan
09:00 Societal pressures are also huge - social media and access to information that the nervous system cannot always make meaning of without overwhelm. Triggers in adulthood will easily then create addictions.
10:30 Tools that we can use - e.g. touch based havening is bottom up from the body to the brain (somatically) via feelings rather than thoughts.
12:00 demo of havening showing the importance of interpersonal support. Connecting with a safe nervous system. Other tools - cranio-sacral therapy, breathwork and humming/chanting (voo sound) helps to stimulate the vagus nerve (calming)

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HOW TO HEAL BIRTH TRAUMA WITH EMDR https://youtu.be/JmtarRiGsgY
QUANTUM HARMONIC RESONANCE IN THE BODY https://youtu.be/DMKLkIw6PXI
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE https://youtu.be/E5TYi9dEBEU
WHY ANXIETY IS NOT A MIND ISSUE https://youtu.be/Ty-J2pu37tA
HOW CHILDHOOD EMOTIONS STILL AFFECT YOU: https://youtu.be/8LzR8yhR8u8

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