Episodios

  • Beyond Safe Words: The Psychology of Trust and Power Exchange

    Beyond Safe Words: The Psychology of Trust and Power Exchange
    Oct 6 2025
    Beyond Safe Words: The Psychology of Trust and Power Exchange In this episode of Kink Your Way, host Leann Herron is joined by the dynamic duo—Enchantress Shane Kulman and Dr. Steve Bodansky. Together, they bring a fresh, playful, and deeply insightful perspective to intimacy, love, and personal growth.Shane and Steve share their PARN framework—Play, Attention, Reveal, Notice, a practical and transformative guide to building trust and connection beyond the mechanics of safe words. From the psychology of vulnerability to the importance of humor and play, they explore how power exchange becomes a pathway to authentic relationships that feel alive and nourishing.Whether you’re curious about kink or looking to deepen your current dynamics, this conversation offers wisdom, laughter, and real-world practices to help you create relationships rooted in trust, freedom, and joy.We discussed:0:00 Greetings and Introduction of Enchantress Shane Kulman and Dr. Steve Bodansky1:52 An introduction to their backgrounds, their partnership, and how their shared journey informs their teachings on love, intimacy, and personal growth.15:01 The PARN Framework — Play, Attention, Reveal, Notice: How their unique approach helps couples and individuals cultivate deeper intimacy, self-awareness, and connection.21:44 The Role of Playfulness - curiosity, joy, being childlike. 31:59 Leann shares her story of loving herself, developing her voice, and exploring which eventually led to her discovery of Kink and BDSM.37:28 Mindfulness, self-awareness, and safety are keys to receiving pleasure.39:21 Beyond Safe Words - The power of communication in negotiating.42:12 Noticing - Awareness, breaks, and edging to extend the play.44:01 It's your responsibility to use your safe-word, if needed.45:03 Vulnerability as a strength enhances the experience of power exchange and deepens trust between partners.56:09 Revealing - Check-In's are vital during and after play.59:46 Mindfulness and Intimacy: Dr. Steve shares how meditation and mindful presence build safety, connection, and trust in everyday relationships.1:04:40 Exercises for connecting your mind to your body.1:04:14 Creativity and Emotional Awareness: Shane discusses how creativity, emotional expression, and self-revelation weave into the psychology of intimacy and power dynamics.1:12:18 Navigating Challenges in Trust and Power: Common struggles couples face—like communication breakdowns and fear of surrender—and how to move through them with compassion.1:21:26 First Steps into Power Exchange: Encouragement and guidance for those curious about exploring kink, with a focus on safety, curiosity, and mutual respect.Episode Resources:Guests: Shane Kulman and Dr. Steve BodanskyEnchantress Shane Kulman and Dr. Steve Bodansky, partners in both life and work, guide people through the art of connection using their unique framework of P.A.R.N. - Your Pathway to Real Intimacy Through Play, Attention, Revealing, and Noticing. For more information on Shane Kulman and Dr. Steve Bodansky, please visit:Website: https://www.extendedmassiveorgasm.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EnchantressShane 🆓Free Gift: Coming SoonAbout your host:Leann Herron is a Kink-Aware Professional, Kink Coach, BDSM Coach, Transformation Coach for Women, and Educator. She is also the Founder of Finding Resilience with Leann and the creator and host of the Happiness On Tap Podcast. For more information on Leann Herron, please visit:Kink Your WayWebsite: https://kinkyourway.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leannherron/ Finding Resilience with LeannWebsite: https://findingresiliencewithleann.com 🆓 FREE Discover the Secrets of Healthy BDSM Relationships https://kinkyourway.com/discover-the-secrets
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    1 h y 28 m
  • Liberation Through Art, Sex, and Healing

    Liberation Through Art, Sex, and Healing
    Sep 16 2025
    Liberation Through Art, Sex, and HealingWhat if kink could be more than play—what if it could also be art, healing, and liberation? In this episode of Kink Your Way, host Leann Herron sits down with Tiffany Hall—visionary filmmaker, performer, Reiki Master, yogi, and holistic wellness practitioner—whose work lives at the sacred crossroads of sexuality, spirituality, and design.With roots in theater, dance, film, yoga, and Reiki, Tiffany brings a multidimensional lens to erotic expression. Her latest projects include Delet3Lola, a custom BDSM wear line, along with a striking new collection of copper jewelry and leather fur gear that merges sensuality, ritual, and craftsmanship. Tiffany’s artistry redefines kink not as taboo, but as a powerful pathway to creativity, empowerment, and whole-body healing.Together, we explore how kink gear can become tools of self-actualization, the artistry of BDSM fashion, and the power of inclusive erotic spaces.Tune in for an illuminating conversation that redefines how we see gear, play, and the role of sexuality in our healing and liberation.We discussed:0:00 Greetings and introduction of Tiffany Hall.2:02 Tiffany’s journey from theater, dance, film, and yoga into BDSM as a sacred practice.5:16 The inspiration behind Delet3Lola and how clothing and gear become extensions of empowerment and erotic identity.7:02 The unique role of copper, leather, and fur in creating sensual and powerful BDSM tools.7:45 How her designs help people embody and express their erotic selves.10:23 Healing power of copper, crystals, and energy.13:12 Tiffany's customizable and infused jewelry and kink gear, including durability.24:03 The problems with selling BDSM gear.30:10 Reframing kink beyond play and taboo into a healing, transformative practice.32:44 The importance of community and inclusivity in creating liberating erotic spaces.33:32 Tiffany shares her story of how this life, this season, was opened up to her through an astrology reading.34:59 How storytelling and visual art as a filmmaker influence her BDSM gear and performances.37:56 Misrepresentations in porn, safety concerns in porn and kink and BDSM spaces.40:57 Purchasing quality kink and bdsm gear.41:47 Practical ways to bring more artistry, ritual, and sacredness into your own BDSM practice.Tiffany shows us that kink is not only play—it’s a canvas for healing, self-expression, and empowerment.Tiffany is redefining what it means to embody sexuality as art and medicine. If this conversation opened your mind, share it with a friend who’s ready to explore kink beyond the surface. And remember: stay curious, stay playful, and keep finding the ways you can Kink Your Way.🔽🔽🔽 SUPPORT AND SUBSCRIBE 🔽🔽🔽Episode Resources:Tiffany HallWebsite: https://www.sexiestpocbrands.store/Other Social Media: Sexiest_POC on InstagramKi-fi Crowdfunding Campaign https://ko-fi.com/sexiestpocbrandsLeann HerronKink Your WayWebsite: https://kinkyourway.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/kinkyourwayLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leannherron/ 🆓Self-Care First Kink Play Prep Checklist - FREE PDF https://findingresiliencewithleann.com/digital-products/ols/products/mental-health-first-kink-play-prep-checklist📲 You can access the audio version on your favorite podcast platforms: IHeart, Spotify, Amazon Music, Podchaser, and Audible (just search Kink Your Way)#somatichealing #lifestylecommunity #empowerment #copperjewelry #kinkfashion #healing
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  • Navigating Kinky, Non-Monogamous, and Lifestyle Relationships

    Navigating Kinky, Non-Monogamous, and Lifestyle Relationships
    Sep 8 2025
    Navigating Kinky, Non-Monogamous, and Lifestyle RelationshipsWhat does it really take to build healthy, shame-free, and joy-filled relationships in kink, non-monogamy, and lifestyle spaces? In this episode of Kink Your Way, I’m joined by Dr. Ashley—Sexologist, Relationship Coach, and proud member of the kink and swinging lifestyle communities. With nearly two decades of experience and a “no-nonsense, don’t f*** around” approach, Dr. Ashley helps individuals and couples break free from shame, guilt, and unhealthy control to create relationships rooted in authenticity and joy.We explore what it really takes to navigate kinky and non-monogamous dynamics, how to deconstruct sex-negative narratives, and why communication and self-knowledge are at the heart of every healthy relationship. Dr. Ashley also shares how her own journey of sexual liberation, survivorship, and mental health advocacy informs her coaching practice.If you’ve ever wondered how to move through stigma, set boundaries, and build thriving relationships in lifestyle communities, this conversation is for you.Key Moments We DiscussedDr. Ashley shares how her journey of sexual liberation, survivorship, and healing informs her coaching.I reflect on my own journey within the kink lifestyle and how those experiences shape my coaching approach.We talk about how it’s absolutely possible to have children and balance lifestyle relationships.Dr. Ashley unpacks how shame and guilt often show up in kinky and non-monogamous relationships, holding people back from full self-expression.She offers her best advice for newcomers to lifestyle dynamics—emphasizing communication, education, exploring proactively instead of reactively, clear boundaries, and pacing yourself.I share my experiences with my introduction to kink, finding community, and exploring different roles.We explore how power dynamics shift across all types of relationships.Together, we discuss the unique challenges kinky and non-monogamous couples face compared to traditional monogamous ones, including jealousy, multiple desires, and agreements—while showing how communication is key.We highlight the importance of realizing you don’t need to be everything for your partner.Dr. Ashley outlines supportive tools for trauma survivors such as coaching, therapy, education, community, and self-awareness practices.I share my own healing as a trauma survivor and how kink gave me empowerment through choice and control.Dr. Ashley challenges the myth that kink or non-monogamy leads to unstable relationships, stressing that intentionality and honesty build success.She speaks openly about living with Bipolar and ADHD, and how her transparency helps clients see that thriving relationships are possible.We close with a discussion on how stigma, slut-shaming, and sex-negative narratives continue to impact lifestyle communities—and how breaking them down creates true freedom.Episode Resources:Dr. Ashley:Website: https://www.relationshipandsexualhealthcoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-ashley-81680b309/overlay/contact-info/ “Just The Tip” Blog https://www.relationshipandsexualhealthcoaching.com/blogLeann HerronKink Your Way:Subscribe for more great content: @kinkyourwayWebsite: https://kinkyourway.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/kinkyourwayLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leannherron/🆓 FREE Discover the Secrets of Healthy BDSM Relationships https://kinkyourway.com/discover-the-secrets#nonmonogamy #relationshipcoach #traumahealing #polyamory
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  • Healing Codependence Through Conscious Kink

    Healing Codependence Through Conscious Kink
    Aug 20 2025
    Healing Codependence Through Conscious KinkCheryl Fidelman, the Conscious Codependence Coach, joins the show to discuss how trauma can influence behaviors in kink, including people-pleasing and power dynamics. Learn about codependency in relationships and how understanding these patterns can lead to deeper healing and self-awareness. Discover how to set boundaries and prioritize self love in your power exchange.Cheryl shares her journey into this work and introduces us to her Conscious Codependence™ methodology—a powerful blend of somatic experiencing, cognitive behavioral therapy, and intersubjective meditation. “The practice of true intimacy & sovereignty is to expose our open heart and broken heart at the exact same time. As we move through the process of returning back to ourselves, we find that the safety to do so lies within.” – C. FidelmanWe discussed:✅ Cheryl's mission, passion, and purpose to help people come back into their body.✅ Codependency versus conscious choice.✅ Cheryl's journey into this work, her traumatic identity.✅ Conscious choice for healing and in relationships.✅ Developing a self, a voice, an identity, after codependency.✅ What Conscious Codependence™ really means and how it differs from traditional definitions.✅Being in our emotions and sensations, where we can surrender and receive.✅ Conscious choice in kink and BDSM.✅ The 3 Codes to Clear Codependency (see free gift) - the framework of the conscious codependency process for codependency in general and in the kink world.✅ How codependent patterns often play out in kink dynamics. Kink can be the access to so much healing and personal evolution.✅ The difference between trauma bonding and authentic connection (especially to self).✅ Healing the nervous system through a somatic experiencing practice called the TSE Practice: Thoughts, Sensations, Emotions. ✅ Through the conscious codependency process your thoughts are: past tripping, future tripping, or about somebody else. Notice your thoughts and your feelings.✅ Creating your inner navigator to heal your nervous system and connect with your body.✅ How intersubjective meditation (TSE practice) supports healing, self-trust and embodiment.✅ The practice of identifying thoughts (past, future, or about someone else) and shifting into feelings and emotions.✅ Boundaries as a form of expansion—learning to trust and hold them with clarity and strength.✅ Learning how to "feel".✅ Cheryl's offerings for individuals, couples, and groups (virtual only), includes a free consultation.✅ Decreasing your "return to self" time.✅ No statute of limitations on consent and communication in kink.This conversation is about reclaiming sovereignty, learning to listen to the wisdom of your body, and building kink relationships from a place of empowered authenticity.🔽🔽🔽 SUPPORT AND SUBSCRIBE 🔽🔽🔽Episode Resources:Cheryl Fidelman:Website: https://cherylfidelman.com/ (free offerings, videos, audios)Podcast: The Conscious Codependence Podcast https://cherylfidelman.com/podcast/ (250 videos on YouTube)🆓Get your FREE PDF on:The 3 Codes to Clear Codependency https://cherylfidelman.com/ Leann Herron:Kink Your WayWebsite: https://kinkyourway.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/findingresiliencewithleann LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leannherron/ 🆓 FREE Discover the Secrets of Healthy BDSM Relationships https://kinkyourway.com/discover-the-secrets📲 You can access the audio version on your favorite podcast platforms: IHeart, Spotify, Amazon Music, Podchaser, and Audible (just search Kink Your Way)#traumahealing #somatichealing #codependencyrecovery
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  • Kink, Community, & Conference Life: The World of Smut Lovers

    Kink, Community, & Conference Life: The World of Smut Lovers
    Aug 6 2025

    Kink, Community, & Conference Life: The World of Smut Lovers

    In this fiery and inspiring return episode, host Leann welcomes back USA Today Best-Selling Romance Author Nikki Rome to discuss how she transformed her passion for steamy, kink-positive romance into a thriving, inclusive empire: Smut Lovers.

    Nikki shares the journey behind Smut Lovers: The Community, The Podcast, and The Conference, revealing how her frustration with the lack of accurate kink information for writers sparked a movement. Smut Lovers has become a vibrant hub where authors and readers can learn, explore, and celebrate the intersection of kink, romance, and storytelling.

    We discussed:

    • The evolution of Smut Lovers from idea to full-blown brand.

    • What sets the Smut Lovers community apart from typical romance reader groups.

    • Surprising lessons Nikki has learned while expanding her brand.

    • Behind-the-scenes insights into Smut Lovers: The Conference—who it's for and why it matters.

    • Demo dungeon experience.

    • Representation gaps in the genre and what readers are craving now.

    • The role of kink-aware communities in normalizing sexual exploration.

    • A major myth about smutty romance Nikki is ready to debunk.

    • What’s next for Nikki and the Smut Lovers universe.


    This episode is a celebration of storytelling, sex-positivity, and the power of building spaces where kink, curiosity, and community thrive.

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    Nikki Rome:

    Websites: https://smutlovers.org/

    https://smutsource.com/

    https://nikkirome.com/

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SmutLovers

    Smut Lovers: The Podcast on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/475F4uepDq05D3kUF9Kcvf?si=6b24670a07af4e99


    Leann Herron:

    Kink Your Way

    Website: https://kinkyourway.com

    Linktree: https://linktr.ee/kinkyourway


    🆓 FREE Kink Play Safety Checklist - FREE PDF https://findingresiliencewithleann.com/digital-products/ols/products/kink-play-safety-checklist


    📲 You can access the audio version on your favorite podcast platforms: IHeart, Spotify, Amazon Music, Podchaser, and Audible (just search Kink Your Way)

    #romancereader #bookcommunity #romanceauthor #womenwhowrite #authorinterview #smutlovers
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  • Living Authentically Kinky: The Journey of HiThereCatsuit

    Living Authentically Kinky: The Journey of HiThereCatsuit
    Jul 11 2025

    Living Authentically Kinky: The Journey of HiThereCatsuit

    What happens when a lifetime of hidden desires meets a microphone, a spandex suit, and 35 years of broadcasting experience? In this powerful episode of Kink Your Way, host Leann welcomes Jon—known in the kink world as HiThereCatsuit—for an inspiring and deeply human conversation about kink awakening, vulnerability, and the power of authentic storytelling.

    Jon is the creator and host of Authentically Kinky (formerly What Women—and Other Wonderful Humans—Want), a podcast with nearly 300 episodes that has become a cornerstone in the kink community. With seven Emmy Awards and a TEDx talk to his name, Jon brings professional polish and heartfelt curiosity to every conversation he hosts—but this time, he’s the one opening up.


    We discussed:

    Breaking down perceptions and stigmas through TEDx education.

    How his background in media shaped the respectful, nuanced tone of Authentically Kinky.

    His childhood fascination with Catwoman and how it hinted at deeper desires.

    The challenges of navigating kink while in a long-term vanilla marriage.

    The power of words.

    The beginning of HiThereCatsuit.

    No doubts, 100% in his personal truth, after a lifetime journey to self.

    Kindness classes at relationship conferences - Are you ready to be seen?

    Leann's story of starting over, finding her identity, and finding kink and BDSM.

    The emotional journey of stepping into his kink identity publicly—with a spandex suit and a mic.

    Who do you see when you look in the mirror?

    Nice guys do finish last.

    Teaching kindness.


    What it means to “reclaim your desires” later in life, and his message to others feeling unsure or afraid to explore their own. "Don't dream it, Be it. Give yourself the permission to be the person you always wanted to be" - HiThereCatsuit


    Above all, Jon's story is a celebration of self-acceptance, transformation, and the courage to live your truth—no matter when you start.

    🖤 Listen to this episode to hear how one man turned personal liberation into a platform for community connection, one respectful, real conversation at a time.


    Episode Resources:

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    Jon aka HiThereCatsuit:Podcast:

    Authentically Kinky https://authenticallykinky.wordpress.com/the-show/ Authentically Kinky on YouTube: YouTube.com/@authenticallykinkypodcast Email: authenticallykinky@gmail.com

    FetLife, X, Bluesky, Instagram - HiThereCatsuit


    Kink Your Way:

    Subscribe for more great content: @kinkyourway

    Website: https://kinkyourway.com

    Linktree: https://linktr.ee/kinkyourway

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leannherron/


    🆓 FREE Discover the Secrets of Healthy BDSM Relationships https://kinkyourway.com/discover-the-secrets

    📲 You can access the audio version on your favorite podcast platforms: IHeart, Spotify, Amazon Music, Podchaser, and Audible (just search Kink Your Way)
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  • Unlocking Sexual Enlightenment: Intimacy, Power & Tantra

    Unlocking Sexual Enlightenment: Intimacy, Power & Tantra
    Jun 26 2025
    Unlocking Sexual Enlightenment: Intimacy, Power & Tantra In this transformative episode of Kink Your Way, we explore how your intimacy can be a gateway not just to better sex, but to your creativity, confidence, and deepest personal power. I was joined by the renowned Tantra teachers Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver, co-founders of the TantraNova Institute, authors of Sexual Enlightenment, and the visionaries behind National Intimacy Day.Together, they unpack how ancient Tantric wisdom fused with modern neuroscience can awaken your sexual energy and direct it into all aspects of life. Their journey as a couple, both personally and professionally, offers a moving example of how intimacy and healing intersect.We discussed:Greetings and Introduction of Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental WeaverHow Freddy and Elsbeth came to share their life and their sexual enlightenment message, their story is beautifulThe power of self-love as the foundation for receiving loveWhat happens during altered sexual states, and how energy is circulatedThe role of Tantra in balancing physical, emotional, and mental well-being through energy centers (chakras)Circulated energyHow sexual energy relates to creativity, technology, innovation, and even leadership Masculine/feminine dynamics in Tantric intimacy and rituals of giver/receiverThe sacred Yoni ritual as a path to reconnecting with feminine energyEnergetic connection exampleLeann's journey into BDSM and finding safe, empowering spaces for sexual educationBreaking down misconceptions of Tantra as purely sexual, and reframing it as a spiritual and embodied path Whether you're new to Tantra or curious about deepening your relationship with your body, this episode is a heart-centered, enlightening guide to reclaiming your sensual energy as a source of transformation and empowerment.🔽🔽🔽 SUPPORT AND SUBSCRIBE 🔽🔽🔽Dr. Elsbeth Meuth & Freddy Zental Weaver:Website: https://www.tantranova.com/Relationship Mastery: https://www.tantranova.com/global/humanrelationshipmastery/ TantraNova on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKincrF-VHfsabcIvsbQEhQ/videos Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TantraNova/ Book:Sexual Enlightenment: How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love and Intimacy https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Enlightenment-Lasting-Fulfillment-Intimacy/dp/B09N5JTC2L/ 🎁 FREE GIFT: Heart-to-Heart Connection Practice Video Deepen your connection, create harmony and shift the way you feel about yourself and each other in nano-seconds https://keap.page/pn194/heart-to-heart-connection.html Kink Your Way:Subscribe for more great content: @kinkyourwayWebsite: https://kinkyourway.com Linktree: https://linktr.ee/kinkyourway🎁 FREE GIFT: Discover the Secrets of Healthy BDSM Relationships https://kinkyourway.com/discover-the-secrets📲 You can access the audio version on your favorite podcast platforms: IHeart, Spotify, Amazon Music, Podchaser, and Audible (just search Kink Your Way)🧡 Share if you enjoyed this episode!
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  • Safe, Sane, Consensual: Safety in Play Starts Here

    Safe, Sane, Consensual: Safety in Play Starts Here
    Jun 5 2025

    Safe, Sane, Consensual: Safety in Play Starts Here

    Today’s bonus episode is a foundational one. We’re talking about something that is absolutely essential in every corner of the kink world—Safety in Play.


    This isn’t just about avoiding physical harm—although we’ll talk about that, too—it’s also about protecting your emotional and psychological safety. Because let’s be real: kink has the potential to be deeply healing or deeply harmful, depending on how we handle it.


    So whether you’re brand new to this space or have decades of leather under your belt, I invite you to settle in and maybe even take some notes. Because today we’re talking about how to play smart, safe, and sexy.


    In this bonus episode, I discuss:

    • Quick Book Recs for the Curious Kinkster
    • Trigger Warning
    • Safety 101 – The Essentials
    • Red Flags to Watch For


    Kink isn’t just about domination, submission, or power. It’s about trust. Vulnerability. Intimacy. Transformation.

    But none of that can happen without safety.


    So here are a few journal prompts to reflect on after today:

    • What does safety feel like in your body?
    • What are your current boundaries—and do your play partners know them?
    • What’s your plan for emotional safety—during and after a scene?

    Grab my FREE ⁠Kink Play Safety Checklist⁠


    Website: ⁠Kink Your Way
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