Real talk about being the oddball in every social circle. In this episode, I share how I already know when I'm going to get rejected or put outside the circle because I'm weird - at church, comedy, music, coding, work - there's always cliques and I'm usually the oddball. I'm done trying to be part of those circles, don't need their acceptance or peer pressure. It bothers me when excluded but I can't let it dictate my life - I create my own lane in every field because I'm being pushed there anyway, why fight it? Learn about the weird phenomenon where people reject you, then when you embrace your own lane they end up not liking you even more ("I thought this is what you wanted"). I discuss how people lose their sense of self trying to please others and do what everybody expects, how you can't get better than the group when one person leads and says "you're not supposed to do it like that," and why you need to go against the grain to improve. Being salt and light of the earth - when I refuse to accept their social standards, I'm hated for it and known as the outcast. I've been doing this since elementary school - learned to make fun of myself first to beat them to the punch. Important: people pretend to be your friend but are insincere - discern by how they treat you alone vs. in groups. You need to put yourself in social situations despite past rejection. I do curbside because I'm lazy and don't want to deal with people - I'm a sore thumb from a mile away. Looking people in the eye to maintain peace - intimidators look away, normal people look back. The oddball, creating your own lane, salt and light.

Random thoughts vlog after a long, rough day. In this episode, I talk about the importance of rest for mental well-being and how negative thoughts creep in when exhausted - I need a nap and a guitar (my therapy), working out makes my muscles scream to go back. I discuss patience running thin with people, gaslighting in unhealthy relationships (when someone uses your patience too thin then calls you the problem when you finally snap), and how healthy relationships communicate openly about problems instead of blaming. Major topic: being completely debt-free with my wife - no credit cards, car loans, student loans, or mortgage. We worked at this for 12+ years. Learn why we bought into the debt mindset (FICO score, credit cards, etc.) and how we got on the same page to knock it all out. Money goes to retirement, savings, kids' college - we're responsible and have money to spend on things we want. Communication about budget is KEY - we put all money in one pile (same bank account), no separate accounts (that's already a flag), no pride about who makes more. We used to fight about money when in debt with no communication or budgeting - now we don't fight about money at all because we're transparent. Eliminated the number one cause of arguments in marriages. Important: discuss significant topics BEFORE marriage - money, kids, church, values. Don't avoid them because you think it's taboo. Sex first then marriage is out of order. Negative thoughts when tired, gaslighting, financial freedom, communication in marriage, topics before marriage.

• (00:00:00) - Workers Talk About Their Days
• (00:00:27) - Stalling
• (00:04:54) - How to Catch Gaslighting in Your Relationship
• (00:06:39) - How to Get Out of Debt in Your Marriage
• (00:10:29) - How To Talk About Money In A Relationship

Jesus shares his morning thoughts, from marriage stresses and ways to reset before going home, to his comedy show learnings and the psychology of laughter. Plus, insights on how his size affects his stage presence and how he flips the script on potential hecklers.