It's Not You. It's Mom Guilt.

Ever feel like your brain replays every rough parenting moment right as your head hits the pillow? We go straight at mom guilt—naming it, sorting it, and giving it boundaries—so it stops steering the day. We unpack the three big flavors we see most: real guilt when actions don’t match values, fake guilt built on comparison and expectations, and absorbed guilt we carry from other people’s feelings. That framework alone changed how we respond: repair after real guilt, reset after fake guilt, and release after absorbed guilt.

We get personal. One of us hated motherhood for years and discovered why through EMDR therapy: childhood chaos made normal kid chaos feel dangerous. EMDR, grounding, and breathwork peeled those associations apart and made room for choice. The other side of the mic lives the nightly replay and the zero-to-sixty snap, then the shame that follows. We talk about repair scripts, calming the body first, and the small rituals that keep us from spiraling—box breathing, “and” statements, and circling back with an honest apology. You’ll also hear practical wins for kids: OT for regulation, food therapy that actually expanded picky eating, and better communication with teachers after tough mornings.

Holidays and high-stakes days add pressure, so we share how we lowered the bar, changed travel plans, and designed days with more outlets and fewer flashpoints. The theme that keeps us steady is community. When we say out loud, I love my kids and I need a break, it gives everyone permission to be honest and get support. If you’re juggling shame, triggers, and endless to-dos, you’ll leave with tools you can try today, a mindset that makes space for two truths, and a reminder that repair matters more than perfection.

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