In this episode we explored why it seems so much easier to find a solution to other peoples problems that it is our own. We discuss the importance of self-compassion and mindfulness and getting a bigger picture perspective, particularly in challenging situations. We reflected on the tendency we have to hold ourselves to a much higher standard than we do for others, that we are less likely to show ourselves understanding and compassion.

We emphasised the need to reflect on the advice we would give to others, particularly those we love, and apply it to ourselves. We talked about giving ourselves a moment of stillness and presence rather than seeking immediate solutions. Trust that self-support and solutions will emerge from a soothed system, rather than the hard time we give ourselves when we are in fight or flight mode!

Takeaways

Can we think about what advice would we give to others we care about?

Can we apply that advice to ourselves.

In difficult times, we often need compassion, not solutions.

Taking a moment to breathe can be beneficial.

Mindfulness helps us to just be in the moment.

It's important to reflect on our feelings.

We often bombard ourselves with solutions when we need support.

Self-compassion is crucial during tough times.

Being present can help alleviate stress.

We should treat ourselves with the same kindness we offer others.

Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:

www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)

www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne)

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In this episode we explore why we view some emotions as negative. It is natural to categorise our feelings as good or bad; wrong or right. The negative ones we experience feel unpleasant and so we have a tendency to push them away.

We consider the importance of facing these emotions and starting to see them as unpleasant rather than bad or negative. All our feelings are data or information about our current state, so it can be helpful to develop a curiosity about them and what they are telling us about ourselves. We emphasise the need to manage difficult emotions rather than suppressing them, highlighting the impact of avoidance on mental health.

Takeaways:

• When faced with unpleasant emotions, we often seek distractions.
• Substance abuse and busyness can be unhealthy coping mechanisms.
• Avoiding difficult emotions can lead to negative consequences.
• It's important to face and manage our emotions directly.
• Suppressing feelings can result in them resurfacing later.
• Healthy emotional management is crucial for mental well-being.
• Understanding our emotional responses can lead to better coping strategies.
• Emotional tolerance is a skill that can be developed.
• Facing emotions can lead to personal growth and resilience.
• Support systems can aid in managing difficult feelings.

Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:

www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)

www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne)

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In this episode, we explore the reasons behind why individuals replay past events and the patterns of behaviour that emerge from these experiences. We discuss the impact of fixed identities, sedimented beliefs, the weight of regret and shame, and the importance of self-compassion in navigating these feelings.

The conversation emphasises the need for understanding our decision-making processes and the illusion of right choices, while also highlighting the significance of seeking help and support when feeling overwhelmed.

We hope that this discussion provides insights into breaking the cycle of overthinking and fostering personal growth.

Takeaways

We often replay the past due to ingrained patterns of behaviour.

Fixed identities can limit our perception of choices.

Shame and regret can lead to self-torture in our thoughts.

Decisions made in the past were based on available evidence at the time.

Self-compassion is crucial for personal growth and healing.

Thoughts are not facts; they can be observed and challenged.

Seeking help is not a weakness but a necessary step for recovery.

We take our existing patterns with us into new situations.

It's important to learn from the past without harsh judgment.

Acceptance of where we are now is the first step to change.

Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:

www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)

www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne)

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