In this episode, we explore the tendency we all have to perceive situations in black and white terms, often overlooking the nuanced middle ground. This is a natural process, our brains are hard-wired to keep us safe and a part of that is to categorise things as safe or unsafe. We discuss how this thinking can lead to unrealistic expectations, particularly in relationships and personal experiences, and how we can work to pull ourselves back to the messy middle.

Our conversation emphasises the importance of emotional regulation, effective communication, and the need to lower expectations to find balance, ease and happiness in life.

Takeaways

We have a tendency to see things in extremes.

Our brains categorise experiences to keep us safe.

Judgment stems from a need for survival.

Catastrophising can ruin otherwise good days.

Expectations can lead to disappointment during holidays.

Communication is key in relationships.

Self-care is not selfish; it's necessary.

Emotional regulation helps in avoiding black and white thinking.

Finding the middle ground is essential for happiness.

Lowering expectations can lead to greater satisfaction.

Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:

www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)

www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne)

Find us at: www.adriennekirk.uk or www.presenceofmind.life

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In this episode, we explore the complexities of feeling grown up, whether we feel different than we did when we were younger, the impact of our inner child, and the cultural perceptions of ageing, particularly for women.

We discuss the challenges of defining ourselves beyond societal labels, the responsibilities of adulthood, and the generational differences in perceptions of growing up. We also emphasise the importance of embracing eccentricities and finding joy in ageing while navigating the messinesses of grown-up life.

Takeaways

Many people feel they haven't changed much since their twenties.

The inner child often feels neglected in adulthood.

Cultural expectations can pressure women regarding ageing.

Ageing is often associated with loss of freedom and increased responsibility.

Generational differences affect perceptions of adulthood.

Maintaining friendships across generations can help to blur age boundaries.

Embracing eccentricities can lead to a more fulfilling life.

Defining oneself beyond societal roles is challenging but necessary.

The fear of ageing often stems from societal pressures.

Finding joy in ageing requires a shift in perspective.

Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:

www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)

www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne)

Find us at: www.adriennekirk.uk or www.presenceofmind.life

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In this conversation, we explore the theme of why we often believe our way of thinking is superior to others'. We discuss everyday examples of perceived efficiency, the comfort of familiarity, and the challenges of accepting different perspectives.

We are always changing, evolving our beliefs, thoughts and the way in which we do things and engage with the world and other people. And can we allow that we therefore might change our minds completely on something, and can that be okay.

This conversation emphasises the importance of flexibility in our beliefs and the value of learning from others, especially younger generations. We also touch on the role of science in shaping our opinions and the necessity of being open to new information.

Takeaways:

We often believe our way is the best way.

Everyday examples highlight our perceptions of efficiency.

Understanding different perspectives can enhance relationships.

Familiarity provides comfort but can hinder growth.

Change can be uncomfortable but is necessary for learning.

Flexibility in beliefs allows for personal growth.

Younger generations can teach us valuable lessons.

Science evolves, and so should our beliefs.

Being open and curious fosters better communication.

Navigating relationships requires understanding and acceptance.

Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:

www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)

www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne)

Find us at: www.adriennekirk.uk or www.presenceofmind.life

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.