It's Normal for Sex to Take Work

With great attraction comes great sex, forever, right? Not so much.

Jessica Maxwell studies relationships and sex for a living. With Canadian roots, she's now an assistant professor at the University of Auckland. I learned things from her that I started applying to my own life as soon as the conversation ended.

Topics of discussion

• Sexual fixed mindset vs. growth mindset
• What factors play into long-term relationship satisfaction?
• How often are people having sex?
• Who else is thinking about how often people are having sex?
• A neat quiz to tell your partner what you want in bed (or out of it)
• The Orgasm Gap
• What's the best way to meet someone we're compatible with?
• How scientific are dating apps?
• Double standards & myths

Fun Stuff

Sex preferences quiz | Mojo Upgrade

Learn More

• Jessica's website

List of researchers Jessica mentioned along with media coverage of their work:

• Terri Fisher | LA Times | Who lies more about sex, men or women?
• Sam Joel | The Cut | It's All Too Easy to Ignore Relationship Dealbreakers
• Amy Muise | Science Daily | Couples who have sex weekly are happiest
• Lindsey Hick | Global News | Are you lying to yourself about how much sex you need in your relationship?