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Quentin R Jiles is a therapist, professor, podcaster, and former contestant on Peacock's hit show "The Traitors." His journey from imposter syndrome in grad school to becoming a trusted therapist for men and couples is a testament to the power of representation, obedience, and learning from your mistakes — even when the whole world is watching.

WE EXPLORE:

Why Quentin walked away from therapy after grad school and what brought him back. The heartbreaking moment he realized Black children struggle to name what's good about themselves. How imposter syndrome shows up in predominantly white spaces and why representation matters. Why every therapist needs a therapist (and every man needs one too). What it's like being a newlywed, new parent, and new business owner all at once. The life lessons learned from ignoring God's voice on national television and losing $125,000. Why learning your parents' story is essential to understanding your own patterns. How couples therapy can save relationships on the verge of fracture.

✊🏾 THE TAKEAWAY:

Obedience is better than sacrifice. When God speaks, listen, even when it doesn't make sense, even when it's uncomfortable, even when you think you know better. And if you're a man who thinks therapy "isn't for you," Quentin's story is proof that the right therapist can help you see what you can't see on your own.

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KEY TOPICS DISCUSSED

• Imposter syndrome in predominantly white spaces

• Why Black children struggle with self-worth and positive self-identification

• The importance of representation in therapy and healing

• Why every man needs a therapist (and how to find one)

• Couples therapy: what it is and why it works

• Learning your parents' story to understand your own patterns

• Marriage, fatherhood, and navigating new identities

• Quinton's experience on Peacock's "The Traitors"

• The cost of disobedience: ignoring God's voice

• Life lessons from being wrong on national television

• Obedience vs. sacrifice: trusting divine guidance

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Some men carry their father's rage. Douglas chose to put it down.

🎙️ IN THIS EPISODE:

Douglas is a serial entrepreneur, TEDx organizer, podcast host, and a man who walked away from a toxic father at 31 and never looked back. His journey from surviving childhood abuse to thriving as a business owner, community leader, and advocate for intentional living is a testament to the power of healing, accountability, and choosing your circle wisely.

💭 WE EXPLORE:

How growing up with an abusive father shaped Douglas's view of trust, relationships, and masculinity. Why he went no-contact with his dad in 2017 and hasn't looked back. The story behind his TEDx Talk "Why You Should Break Up With Your Friends" and how your circle determines your ceiling. The power of self-care, pedicures, Thai massages, and rest as radical acts for Black men. Why leaving Houston, building multiple income streams, and taking care of his mother became his definition of success. The difference between being busy and being intentional, and why the hustle culture narrative is a trap.

✊🏾 THE TAKEAWAY:

Healing isn't soft. It's the hardest work you'll ever do. And the men who do it become the ones who lead, love, and live with clarity. If you're still carrying someone else's pain, protecting someone else's legacy, or stuck in a circle that doesn't challenge you. it's time to make a change.

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• Childhood trauma and abusive father relationships

• Father wounds and going no-contact with toxic parents

• Breaking up with friends who keep you stuck

• Emotional intelligence and vulnerability for Black men

• Self-care as a non-negotiable practice (pedicures, massages, rest)

• Serial entrepreneurship and escaping the state job trap

• TEDx organizing and public speaking

• Why exposure (travel, new cities, new people) expands your mindset

• Curating mentors, business connections, and hobby circles

• Taking care of aging parents and reversing roles

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You can’t heal what you refuse to name.
This conversation explores emotional gaps many Black men were raised with and how those gaps show up in adulthood.
Healing isn’t weakness. It’s responsibility.

Key Topics Discussed

• Emotional illiteracy in men
• Trauma disguised as anger
• Chronic stress in Black men
• Therapy as leadership
• Marriage revealing emotional maturity
• Forgiveness without apology
• Faith and obedience
• Healing as responsibility

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