I Need More. Now What?

This excerpt from "A Guide to Loving Yourself and Getting What You Need as The Mindful Modern Mistress" examines the complexities of open relationships and affairs, arguing that while they are not for everyone, they can be navigated ethically if done thoughtfully and with careful consideration for all involved. The author, a sex and dating coach, emphasizes the importance of strong communication, open and honest conversations about desires and needs, and a willingness to explore feelings beyond the traditional model of monogamy. She cautions readers to consider the potential for hurt and jealousy in such scenarios, suggesting that they may be better suited for couples who have established a solid foundation of trust and compersion, the ability to feel happiness for another person's success. However, she asserts that fulfilling one's needs through an extramarital relationship can be achieved while maintaining respect and kindness, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and less stressful primary relationship.