I Call It Healing, My Accountant Calls It Concerning: Grieving What You Missed and Reclaiming What You Love

In this tender, science-backed episode of The Wrong Ones, we talk about why play isn’t regression—it’s repair. Using the Labubu phenomenon as a doorway, we unpack how nostalgia, variable reinforcement (dopamine), and “comfort consumerism” can actually be signals from the nervous system asking for softness and safety. We explore inner-child work through attachment theory and somatic psychology, grieve the life our parents imagined for us, and practice building one that finally feels like home. We also look at the only-child experience—why so many only children feel “wise beyond their years,” and how to lovingly rebalance the “mini-adult” identity with real play.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever thought, “Why do I feel guilty resting?” or “Why does joy feel… awkward?” and for the former gifted kids, good daughters, and only children who are learning to choose themselves with tenderness.

In this episode, we cover:

• What it means to stop earning love and let it land—soft, safe, unearned

• Why Labubu hits our reward circuitry: anticipation, novelty, and the neuroscience of nostalgia

• Play as protest: how silliness and awe regulate an overworked nervous system

• Inner child 101: theta-state learning (0–7), attachment blueprints, and introjected beliefs

• The quiet grief of leaving the life your parents wanted—and choosing alignment over optics

• Only-child psychology: adult modeling, upward scaffolding, “mini-adult” roles, and the peer-skills trade-off

• Gentle reparenting: journaling prompts that witness (not fix) your younger self

• Somatic first aid: regulate first (breath, vagal toning, cold splash, rocking), then reflect

• Joy reps & micro-rituals: building a daily rhythm your inner child feels safe in

• Boundaries that protect the child self: a soft no, a playful yes, and one clear limit where guilt used to live

• Reframe to keep: “Labubu isn’t regression. It’s resurrection.”

Reflection Question of the Week:

What is one thing your inner child always longed for—but never received—and how can you give it to them now?

Let it be small. A ritual, a boundary, a $12 joy. Let it be yours.

Resources Mentioned:

• Bowlby & Ainsworth on Attachment Theory

• Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score

• EMDR & Internal Family Systems (IFS) approaches to trauma processing

• Research on dopamine, anticipation, and variable reinforcement

• Writing on comfort consumerism during economic stress

• Family Systems Theory on introjection and role consolidation (the only-child “mini-adult”)

• Somatic practices for vagal toning and nervous-system regulation

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