How to stop keeping score in marriage

In sports, we love a close game. We love a lot of back and forth, lots of victories and losses, culminating in a nail-biting finale. And it’s the scores and the competition that give us those highs and lows. But in a marriage, keeping score isn’t so fun. In fact, scorekeeping in marriage can mean everyone loses.

Let’s talk about the meaning of scorekeeping in marriage and psychology, why it’s easy to do, why scorekeeping doesn’t work, and what to do instead.