How to Tell the Difference Between a Red Flag and Fear?

Are you actually seeing a red flag, or are you just projecting past fears onto a new situation? This week, Erica and Shelby dive deep into the psychology of discernment—both in our relationships and our creative journeys. We’re exploring what it looks like to "do your best" when your "best" changes every single day.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The Check-In: Redefining what "doing your best" looks like in this current season of life.

• Dating & Relationships: How to distinguish between an actual red flag and your own internal defense mechanisms.

• The Journey: The honest reality of staying obedient to your vision without burning out. We share personal stories of "doing too much," trying to prove our worth through our work, and the warning signs of resentment and exhaustion.

• Mentor Moment: "He checks every box, but I don't feel peace." We help a listener navigate the difficult decision to walk away from a "perfect on paper" partner.

• Words of Encouragement: A grounding reflection on Romans 12:12—remaining joyful in hope and faithful in prayer through every affliction.

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