How to Spot the Signs That Someone Is Struggling

Not every crisis looks like a breakdown. Learn how to spot subtle signs someone’s struggling, and how to respond without overreacting or brushing it off.

Ever look at a coworker and just know something’s off, even if they say they’re fine?

It’s one of the hardest parts of peer support: knowing when to lean in, especially when the signs are subtle.

Not everyone in crisis is going to fall apart in front of you. Sometimes, they’re still showing up to work, cracking jokes, and getting the job done, but inside, they’re unraveling.

If we wait until someone is completely falling apart, we’ve waited too long.

This episode will help you pay attention, spot red flags, and know when—and how—to check in.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU’LL LEARN:

• The most common warning signs someone’s struggling emotionally
• What to say (and what NOT to say) when checking in
• Why “I’m fine” isn’t always the truth, and how to keep the door open

You don’t need to diagnose anyone. You just need to notice. And care enough to show up.

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CISM Individual Lake Charles Training

This Assisting Individuals CISM training gives you a clear, proven framework for supporting individuals after difficult calls, losses, or traumatic events, without turning the conversation into therapy. Learn when and how to use the Assisting Individuals model appropriately, practical skills for one-on-one crisis support after critical incidents, and how this training fits into a strong peer support or CISM program. Training Dates: January 15–16, 2026 Location: Lake Charles, Louisiana Host: With You SWLA Underwritten By: Crisis Response Care Cost: $50 Register at https://www.survivingyourshift.com/individual