How to Love Someone Who Keeps Hurting You

In this message from 2 Corinthians 12:11–19, Pastor Jeffrey Johnson explores how believers are called to respond when they are criticized, misunderstood, or mistreated—especially by those they have loved and served. Drawing from Paul’s defense of his ministry to the Corinthians, he highlights the apostle’s remarkable tenderness and perseverance in the face of gossip, false accusations, and ingratitude. Rather than reacting with anger or self-protection, Paul responds with patience, sacrificial love, and a continued commitment to their spiritual good.

Pastor Johnson applies this passage broadly—to pastors, spouses, parents (especially those with wayward children), and anyone navigating difficult relationships. He reminds listeners that love often means stepping back into the fire, serving again even when it hurts, and seeking the other person’s good rather than personal vindication. Paul’s declaration—“I will most gladly spend and be spent for your souls”—becomes a powerful model of gospel-shaped love.

Ultimately, this sermon points beyond Paul to Christ Himself. Just as the Corinthians misjudged Paul, we often misread God’s goodness and respond with ingratitude. Yet Jesus continues to love, receive, and patiently shepherd His people. This message calls believers to reflect that same steadfast, sacrificial love in their own relationships, trusting that God uses even difficult people to shape us more into the image of Christ.