How to Become MAGNETIC in your Relationship - The One Thing that Guarantees Deeper Connection | Ep. 89

Many couples don’t lose love after becoming parents. They lose exposure.

In this episode, we explore why emotional connection can feel thin, even when there’s commitment, shared history, and genuine care. Why you may feel appreciated, needed, even admired… yet still not deeply known.

This isn’t another conversation about communication techniques or “trying harder.” It’s about something far more uncomfortable and far more powerful.

Drawing from years of therapeutic work, I share a surprising insight from inside the therapy room: people become magnetic not when they are impressive, articulate, or well-regulated, but when they allow themselves to be seen beneath the performance.

We unpack the quiet paradox so many of us live with: You crave intimacy, yet you hide the very parts of you that would create it.

Not because you’re dishonest, but because at some point, it stopped feeling safe to show up fully.

This episode explores how emotional intimacy actually forms, why so many relationships feel emotionally flat after parenthood (or just time…), and how self-protection (not lack of love) slowly erodes closeness.

And importantly, we talk about what vulnerability is not: - It’s not oversharing. - It’s not emotional dumping. - It’s not collapsing boundaries.

It’s allowing honest parts of you into the room, intentionally, safely, and without armor.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “My partner doesn’t really see me”
• “I feel alone even though I’m not”
• “We talk, but it doesn’t land”

this episode will help you understand why, and what actually deepens connection.

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Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com