How Sharing One Hard Story Can Help Someone Choose Tomorrow Elliott Hicks story

What if the story that nearly broke you becomes the reason someone else chooses to stay another day?
This episode holds that kind of power.

We sit with Elliot, a single dad who rebuilt his life after betrayal, grief by suicide, and a world that still whispers to fathers, “You’re secondary.” This is not a filtered conversation. It is raw, human, and full of the truth people never say out loud.

Elliot speaks openly about losing his identity after separation, the fear of being judged for asking for help, and the pressure of performing strength when inside everything is shaking. He walks us through his long journey to a borderline personality disorder diagnosis — the triggers around loss and rejection, the emotional whiplash that can flip a day upside down, and the relief of finally hearing, “You’re not broken — this has a name.”

We go deeper than clichés about co-parenting. We talk about the reality: the moments dads get overlooked in schools, surgeries, and even in court phone calls; the fear that speaking honestly about mental health could be used against you; and the slow but real shift in the courts toward fairness, balance, and 50-50 care where it is safe.

And then we build forward.
With tools that actually work in real life:
• grounding techniques that calm your mind
• routines that steady you when everything feels fragile
• boundaries without guilt
• small wins that make tomorrow feel possible
• mates who show up
• and the reminder that your child wants you, not your perfection

We also make room for joy — late-night kid one-liners, laughter that resets your breath, burritos with old friends, and the tiny moments that prove healing is not loud, it is steady.

If you have ever felt alone, ashamed, or scared to speak up, this episode is your hand on the shoulder. A map back to yourself. Proof that sharing one hard story can save someone’s tomorrow.

Legal Note (Important Context at the Time of Recording)

When this episode was recorded, UK child-contact law was different.
In October 2025, the government announced plans to abolish the presumption that a child automatically benefits from contact with both parents.

This means:
• no automatic assumption in favour of both parents
• child safety and wellbeing become the absolute priority
• emotional and coercive abuse now weighs far more heavily
• courts can limit, supervise, or fully refuse contact where credible risk exists
These changes will be added to the Children Act 1989 when parliamentary time allows.

If you are navigating separation now, seek advice through GOV.UK, family law specialists, and mediation where safe.

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