For centuries, the timeline of motherhood was largely dictated by nature. Today, it’s a landscape of conflicting pressures.

The human body has not changed with changing socio-cultural milieu. A woman’s fertility, peaks in her twenties, faces a significant decline by her mid-30s. This is an unyielding biological fact. Yet, simultaneously, the age of marriage & childbearing has progressively increased due to education, career ambitions, & economic shifts.

This creates a painful paradox: women are building their lives in ways society encourages, only to find their biological capacity diminished when they are ready for motherhood. The result, is an “epidemic of infertility,” where age is a primary factor.

The “Older Mother”: Two Profiles, One Deep Desire

The term “older mother” often conjures a single image, but in clinical practice, we see two distinct, powerful narratives:

1. The Woman Chasing a Basic Biological Instinct: These are women in their late 30s & 40s who, aware of their “diminishing fertility,” still seek to fulfill a “highly cherished desire.” They face not just medical challenges but also huge “peer pressure on women to achieve motherhood, sometimes, almost at any cost.” 2. The Post-Menopausal Woman: Altruism or Last Chance: This group includes women using donor eggs or acting as surrogates. To condemn them, we argue, is cruel. “Grandmothers do not reproduce for fun… they do it to help others or to attend to their basic biological need.” ,

The Unassailable Right to Reproduce

The 1994 International Conference on Population and Development in Cairo stated: “To be able to reproduce & raise a family is one of the fundamental rights of every individual.”

This is not just a medical issue; it is an ethical one. Should the criteria for motherhood be age alone, or physical fitness, or a combination? Is it just to deny a fit & healthy 50-year-old woman the chance to be a mother, when an unfit 30-year-old faces no such barriers?

The argument that an older mother may not live to see her child into adulthood is, as we called it, a “specious argument.” Even a decade of a mother’s love is a profound gift. “Many women who were denied motherhood for medical reasons are now going through successful pregnancies and deliveries… The advancement in medical management has offered motherhood for these women.” Why should a healthy old women be excluded from this progress?

Where Do We Draw the Line? The Problem with Legislation

The urge to legislate an age limit is understandable but ultimately flawed. As we stated, “To legislate on these issues would be futile,” often leading to a public backlash and drives desperate couples to “falsify their age to seek treatment elsewhere.”

The responsibility, therefore, cannot rest with the community or a rigid law. It must be a shared decision between the individual, their family, and their doctor. “The ultimate responsibility should be that of the individual centre/doctors and the patient.”

A Final Thought: Recalibrating Our Priorities

Most poignant insight is a societal one: “There is a confusion & conflict between education, career & childbearing.” We must recognize that for many women, “the first & most important career… is childbearing; education & career are secondary… but childbearing must be done at the right time for optimal results.”

Yet, for those for whom the “right time” comes later in life, our role is not to judge but to support. The question is not “How old is too old?” but “Is this individual, with her unique circumstances, physical health, & profound desire, prepared for the journey of motherhood?”

Denying her that chance based on a number alone is to ignore the very purpose she holds dear: that “we all live to reproduce; reproduce & continue to live through our children.”