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The words we speak in our relationships have a power that extends far beyond the moment they're uttered. For those navigating PMDD relationships, this power becomes even more significant as negative statements spoken during luteal phase can transform into what I call "word curses" - harmful declarations that stick with us and our partners despite our best intentions.

Have you ever wondered why you can't move forward in your relationship despite genuine apologies and improved behavior? The answer might lie in these word curses. When you tell your partner "we shouldn't be together" or "you're impossible to love" during a PMDD episode, your brain doesn't file these statements away as temporary feelings. Instead, they become embedded beliefs that shape how both of you perceive the relationship long-term.

These negative declarations create a particularly devastating cycle in PMDD relationships. During follicular phase, you might speak lovingly about your partner, highlighting all their wonderful qualities. But after experiencing their harsh words during luteal phase, they struggle to trust the authenticity of your affection. How can the same person who called them manipulative also genuinely believe they're amazing? This contradiction undermines trust at the foundation of your connection.

I often use a powerful metaphor with my clients: imagine each hurtful word as a rock placed in your backpack. Over months or years together, that backpack becomes unbearably heavy as you collect and carry these word curses with you. The relationship feels impossibly difficult not because you don't love each other, but because you're both weighed down by the accumulated pain of words spoken.

Breaking free requires recognizing that you cannot "out-action" hurtful words. No amount of loving behavior can erase their impact without directly addressing them. You must identify the source of these negative statements, challenge their validity, consistently speak life instead of death into your relationship, and practice daily forgiveness. Only by removing these rocks one by one can you both find the freedom to move forward together.

Ready to transform your relationship by breaking these word curses? Join my PMDD Power Couples Group Counseling Membership where we'll work through this process together. Visit inlovewithpmdd.com to learn more and start speaking power into your relationship today.