“Having a fantastic relationship is a learnable skill.”

So many of us crave deeper connection, more spark, and a sense of feeling not just content, but truly alive, decades into love and relationships. But what if your desire has dulled, your partnership feels stuck on autopilot, or you’re no longer even sure what you want, let alone how to ask for it? Enter Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, “The Intimacy Doctor”, a physician, relationship coach, author, and podcast host, whose mission is to help women and couples create conscious, erotically vibrant partnerships in midlife and beyond.

Join us for a candid and empowering conversation with Dr. Stockwell on breaking the cycle of compromise, rediscovering your desires, and bringing more pleasure into your life… and your bedroom. We dive into why:

• Great relationships and intimacy are built through intention and skill, not just chemistry or time
• Desire alone isn't enough to sustain relationships and the importance of reflecting on how deeply you truly want something
• Many women discover deeper pleasure and connection later in life
• Uncompromising intimacy, rather than compromise, is the real secret to a nourishing, fulfilling relationship
• Everyday interactions shape long-term intimacy just as much as what happens in the bedroom
• Curiosity and asking open-ended questions can reignite emotional and sexual intimacy with your partner
• Vulnerably sharing how something made you feel creates more connection than placing blame

OUR GUEST: Alexandra Stockwell, MD, “The Intimacy Doctor”, is a relationship and intimacy expert who helps high-achieving couples create emotionally connected, erotically vibrant partnerships. A physician-turned-coach, she’s the bestselling author of Uncompromising Intimacy, host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program. Married for 28 years with four children, Dr. Alexandra teaches that the key to lasting passion isn’t compromise, it’s authenticity. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Rolling Stone, Cosmopolitan, and more.

Want more Dr. Stockwell? Find her online at https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/ and listen to her podcast, “The Intimate Marriage Podcast”, using the link below or wherever you get your podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intimate-marriage-podcast-with-intimacy/id1548060690

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“Adolescence isn’t the end of your close relationship with your child, it’s the beginning of the best one you’ve ever had.”

For so many parents, the teenage years loom like a storm cloud, fraught with anxiety, conflict, and the fear of losing connection. But what if everything you think you know about adolescence is dead wrong? What if it’s not a time to dread or simply get through, but an invitation to lifelong closeness and understanding with your kids?

In this episode we sit down with Megan Saxelby, founder of Wild Feelings, veteran educator, and reformed “middle school monster” on a mission to radically reframe how we all understand and approach adolescence. Drawing from 17 years in middle school classrooms and her pioneering work in dignity-based conflict resolution, Megan shares how these pivotal years can unlock the best, most meaningful relationships we’ll ever have with our kids. We discuss:

• Why the “doom and gloom” narrative about teens does everyone (kids and adults alike!) a massive disservice, and what actually happens when we expect more from them
• The powerful science behind adolescent brain development (hint: ages 11–17 are just as crucial as birth to five—and why we need to stop checking out right when it matters most)
• How dignity-based conflict resolution can transform peer relationships, empower young people to speak up, and bring empathy and accountability into every hard conversation
• The number one thing teens want: to truly MATTER, to belong, and to have agency—along with simple, actionable shifts you can use to support them (no matter whose kid they are)
• Real talk about parenting through change: whether that’s divorce, growing up, or just learning how to be your child’s anchor, not their peer
• Practical ways to help teens (and yourself) meet the chaos of growing up, especially in a world that makes belonging and inclusion feel more urgent (and more fraught) than ever

OUR GUEST: Megan Saxelby is on a mission to reframe adolescence as a time of growth and connection—not chaos. A veteran educator and founder of Wild Feelings, she brings 17 years of classroom experience and cutting-edge research to her work with parents. Megan has collaborated with thought leaders like Rosalind Wiseman and Dr. Donna Hicks, and helped develop core curriculum for #halfthestory, a leading digital wellness nonprofit. Through Wild Feelings, she offers practical, evidence-based tools that help parents navigate the teen years with confidence and compassion.

Want more Megan? Find her online at https://www.wildfeelings.co/ and check out her parenting course here: https://www.wildfeelings.co/parents/

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Dating in today’s world can feel confusing, lonely, and (thanks to the apps) a lot like a part-time job with no benefits. But what if finding a connection isn’t about chasing elusive chemistry, endlessly scrolling, or pretending to be someone you’re not? Enter Dr. Frankie Bashan: a clinical psychologist, longtime connector, and pioneering LGBTQIA+ matchmaker whose mission is to help every person find authentic love, no matter what boxes they check.

In this conversation, Dr. Frankie joins Erin to share her personal story and lift the veil on what really works (and what doesn’t) when it comes to finding partnership in midlife, especially for those outside the hetero dating mainstream. We dive into:

• Turning your strengths and superpowers into a career
• The power and success that come from finding your niche in business and serving underserved communities
• Why dating apps are designed to keep you wanting, not finding, and how matchmaking flips the script
• Why chasing the “fireworks” in dating chemistry can be a trap and not a path to a healthy, sustainable relationship
• How your “list” might be holding you back, and why letting go of overly specific criteria in favor of three core dealmakers can open you up to real connection
• How matchmaking for the LGBTQ+ community is different and what straight daters can learn from queer dating wisdom

OUR GUEST: Dr. Frankie Bashan is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and founder of Little Gay Book, the leading LGBTQ+ matchmaking service in the U.S. With over 20 years of experience supporting queer individuals and couples, she combines emotional intelligence, intuition, and a personalized approach to help clients find meaningful, lasting love. Known for her emotional intelligence and trauma-informed approach, Dr. Frankie boasts an 85% matchmaking success rate to support clients around the world. She also co-hosts MTV’s Are You The One and offers coaching globally via Zoom.

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