Hot & Grounded with Board Certified Sexologist | Dr. Diane Mueller

Want a relationship that lasts and still feels electric? We sat down with Dr. Diane Mueller, a board-certified sexologist with dual doctorates in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture & Oriental Medicine, to unpack the science and practice of keeping monogamy hot and deeply connected. Her story starts with unexpected healing through pleasure and expands into a research-backed framework for building resilient intimacy without shame or guesswork.

We dig into desire mismatch and why the “meet in the middle” approach leaves both partners unsatisfied. You’ll learn a simple values-and-pie-chart exercise that exposes whether your calendar actually reflects what you claim to value. From there we make the case for scheduling intimacy once a week, not to kill spontaneity, but to protect it—because you already “scheduled” sex when you were dating. Dr. Diane clarifies a crucial distinction: desire is of the mind, arousal is of the body. Men often feel desire first; women frequently need arousal before the mind says “yes,” especially under stress. That insight reshapes foreplay, pacing, and expectations.

We explore hot and modern monogamy—keeping the stability of partnership while actively tending to emotional intimacy, physical touch, and sexual play. Expect practical tools: erotic reprogramming to rebuild safety after a lull, mindfulness techniques that anchor you in sensation, and a “name it, don’t shame it” script for sharing fantasies without getting shut down. We also break common myths: most women need clitoral stimulation to climax, men gain oxytocin bonding during foreplay, and both partners prefer 17 to 19 minutes of warm-up more than pop culture suggests. Novelty matters too; treat your sex life like learning new chords on a guitar to avoid repeating the same tired script.

If you’re ready to close the orgasm gap, defuse stress, and fall back in love with your own chemistry, this conversation delivers clear steps you can use tonight. Subscribe, share with a partner, and leave a review to tell us what you’ll try first.

Connect with Dr Diane Mueller :

- Through her book - Want to Want It / https://mylibidodoc.com/want-to-want-it/

- Or through her website - https://mylibidodoc.com/products/

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