Why do so many of us feel the need to be in control, at work, at home, and in our relationships? Co-hosts Rebecca and Diane dive into the complex and often messy world of control, exploring what drives our need to orchestrate and manage every detail. From the pressures of change and uncertainty to the deep links between trust, fear, and perfectionism, this episode provides real insights about how control shows up in our lives and impacts those around us.

Tune in as Rebecca and Diane discuss how our relationship with control can hold us back and how learning to relinquish control (yes, even when it feels challenging!) can help us move forward, boost collaboration, and restore our energy.

Here are the Highlights:

00:00 Introduction: Why our relationship with control matters

01:04 Control at work, when it helps, and when it hurts

02:14 What’s behind the need for control?

04:50 What drives controlling behaviours?

06:09 Real-life examples: Control at home and in the workplace

08:43 The energy drain of chasing control

09:19 The impact on teams: Collaboration, trust, and getting “stuck”

11:22 The cycle of rescuing, fixing, and passive behaviour

13:21 How to notice where control shows up for you

14:28 Trust, fear, and how to unlock new dynamics

16:15 Relinquishing control leads to innovation, creativity, and freedom

18:27 Self-compassion, pacing, and reframing what matters

20:42 Parenting, delegation, and the lessons for leadership

22:05 How to identify, trust, and delegate more effectively

22:34 Self-coaching questions to reflect on your relationship with control

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

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Why do annual appraisals inspire so much anxiety from those being appraised, as well as their managers? Co-hosts Diane, and Rebecca take a deep dive into the good, the bad, and the ugly of performance reviews, sharing real insights from the coaching room and exploring how shifting mindsets can make these conversations far more meaningful (and less stressful) for everyone involved.

This episode brings practical strategies for approaching appraisals,, and offers self-coaching questions so you can reflect and take charge of your appraisal experience whether you’re giving or receiving feedback.

Here are the Highlights:

00:00 Introduction: Why it’s time to talk honestly about appraisals

01:45 A brief history of appraisals and why nerves kick in

03:30 Why appraisals have a negative reputation

04:26 The emotional impact of appraisals

06:22 The challenge for managers

08:52 Feedback pitfalls: The “feedback sandwich” and surprise revelations

11:46 The aftermath and why the negatives stick more than the positives

13:12 How to make appraisals more meaningful

15:15 Focusing on outcomes and forward-thinking

16:32 How to walk into an appraisal constructively

17:25 Choose a collaborative approach: Adult-to-adult communication

19:24 Who should do the talking? Why managers need to listen more

19:32 Self-care, reflections, and three essential self-coaching questions.

Connect with us at Headflex:

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

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What role does coaching play in helping people with ADHD thrive in the workplace and why does a non-directive approach make all the difference? Co-hosts Diane Williams and Diane are joined by ADHD coach, educator, and advocate Sally Cater, returning to the podcast for a deeper exploration of how coaching can empower neurodiverse talent. In this third episode of our ADHD Awareness Month series, we spotlight the practical, emotional, and leadership lessons at the heart of truly inclusive workplaces. The episode also brings actionable insights for managers on busting myths, listening deeply, and getting educated from credible sources.

Here are the Highlights:

00:00 Introduction: Why ADHD at work needs a new conversation

01:45 Meet Sally: Coach, trainer, and advocate with first-hand experience of ADHD

04:54 The freedom of a non-directive coaching approach

07:21 Reclaiming “permission”: Owning needs and differences at work

09:04 Key ways coaches can support clients with ADHD

12:32 Navigating workplace adjustments and disclosure

14:03 Helping managers understand ADHD—and what not to do

17:54 Small changes, big impact: Doodling, walking, and adjusting meetings for focus

22:08 Education matters: Busting myths and going beyond stereotypes

25:43 How to have better conversations and ask “How does it show up for you?”

28:05 Sally’s big tip: Open dialogue is everything

About Sally Cater:

Sally has been an accredited coach for 10 years and is a champion for inclusivity and understanding in the neurodiverse community.

After uncovering her own late diagnosis of ADHD and and realising that the derogatory labels she had given herself over the years were a result of a lack of understanding of what her neurodivergent brain was struggling to do as she forced herself to fit into a neurotypical world, she has since redefined her narrative, shedding past misconceptions and now helps other coaches expand their confidence and knowledge of ADHD.

She runs two brilliant programmes which help coaches seamlessly integrate ADHD-informed strategies into their coaching practice, enhancing their ability to support and empower clients.

• ADHD in Focus for Coaches course, our ICF-accredited group coaching program
• ADHD Foundations for Coaches course, our self-paced course

Prior to becoming a coach Sally spent 25 years leading and managing teams across the private and third sectors. And had the privilege, in her own words, "of working with teams of all shapes and sizes, brimming with unique and brilliant minds."

Connect with Sally:

Website: https://sallycatercoach.co.uk/

Email: hello@headflex.co.uk.

Website: www.headflex.co.uk

Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/

Produced by Winter Audio