Guiding Kids When The World Feels Unstable

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender step carefully into a painful cultural moment following the death of Renee Nicole Good in Minnesota. Rather than debating politics, they explore how moments of public tragedy and unrest can quietly shape a child's identity, and a parent's emotional posture. This conversation unpacks how fear and uncertainty can begin to define who we think we are if we aren't grounded in something bigger. Dr. Kathy walks through the five key dimensions of identity, intellectual, emotional, social, physical, and spiritual, and explains how helping kids develop a big enough identity keeps cultural moments from swallowing them whole. The episode also offers practical guidance for parents who feel overwhelmed themselves: how to apologize when we overreact and how to teach children that sadness is a faithful response before anger. Grounded in the image of Jesus weeping with Mary and Martha, this episode reminds parents that sitting with grief is not weakness, it's formation.