Growing Up in North Texas Soccer: The Journey of Kassandra Ruelas

In this episode of Chat By The Pitch, Ian sits down with North Texas player and administrator Kassandra Ruelas to unpack what it really looks like to grow up inside one of the most competitive girls’ soccer markets in the country. From yelling “goal” as her first word to playing with the boys and eventually earning a chance to play in Spain, Kassandra’s story is a masterclass in soccer IQ, resilience, and family support.

Kassandra talks about the pressure of DFW girls’ soccer, the unspoken politics of youth sports, and what it feels like to be overlooked and benched after being named captain—and why she refused to let that season define her. She shares how her mom’s sacrifices, her cousins’ professional careers (including stints in Mexico and with the Dallas Sidekicks), and training with the boys gave her the tools to navigate setbacks without losing her love for the game.

For players, this conversation shows how to use the field as your therapy, build your game around intelligence instead of just being bigger, faster, stronger, and survive the hard seasons. For parents, it’s a real look at travel, pressure, and why the right coach matters more than any alphabet-soup league. For coaches, Kassandra offers a player’s-eye view on communication, favoritism, and how one honest conversation can change a career.

Key Talking Points

• How soccer has always been part of Kassandra’s life — her first word was “goal,” and the living room was a mini-pitch growing up.

• The moment in middle school when soccer shifted from “fun with friends” to serious training, four-year plans, and future dreams on the pitch.

• Growing up in a North Texas soccer family — cousins who played pro in Mexico and indoors with the Dallas Sidekicks — and the self-imposed pressure to honor their investment in her.

• The Texas girls’ soccer environment: extremely competitive, with teammates and opponents now playing in the NWSL—and how that can mess with your head if you compare timelines.

• How her mom’s support and sacrifices (driving 1.5 hours in traffic, always backing her choices) helped balance the pressure.

• Soccer as therapy and creative outlet: using the game to disconnect from stress, reset emotionally, and express herself without overthinking.

• Learning to separate “family” from “coach” with her three cousins: flipping the switch from joking in the car to professionalism on the field.

• Kassandra’s club journey: Odyssey → Liverpool → Solar → FC Dallas → Texans → Sting → Al Nord Texas boys → heading to Spain to play with Villarreal.

• Why DFW competition at U13+ felt tougher than most out-of-state tournaments (except maybe California) and how playing the same high-level players for years sharpened her game.

• The hardest season: being told she’d be captain, then getting five minutes of game time, feeling overlooked, and wanting to quit—but choosing to control her work rate and attitude instead.

• Esteban’s advice on politics and the rollercoaster of soccer—you can’t want the highs without accepting the lows.

• How the DFW soccer community is a small world—one name can spark a 30-person chain of connections, from FC Dallas games to Starbucks encounters.

• The difference between Texas-style “athlete building” and Spanish tactical football, and why playing with boys forced her to lean on IQ instead of brute force.

• Why she turned down a DA opportunity because the coaching style didn’t fit her, even though the letters looked good.

• A player’s perspective on alphabet-soup leagues, constant travel, and chasing logos vs. staying local, dominating your backyard, and finding the right environment.

Quotes from Kassandra

• “My first word was ‘goal’ during a game. Soccer has literally always been there—I can’t remember life without it.”

• “If I’m not playing on the field, I’m not happy. It’s when I miss the...