God's Love is Not Based on Performance

In this deeply healing and eye‑opening episode of the Finding God Podcast, Keana explores one of the most damaging yet common beliefs in Christianity: the idea that God’s love must be earned. Many believers carry silent pressure to “perform” spiritually to pray enough, serve enough, behave well enough, or be perfect enough to feel worthy of God’s love. But this belief doesn’t come from God. It comes from people, trauma, culture, and distorted teachings that confuse performance with worthiness. In this episode, Keana breaks down: Why so many Christians feel like they must earn God’s love How family systems, church culture, and trauma shape this belief The psychological impact of conditional love The spiritual damage caused by performance‑based religion Biblical examples of people who struggled with performance and those who rested in God’s unconditional love How to recognize when you’re performing for God instead of connecting with Him Five healing practices to help you break free from spiritual striving This episode is a gentle invitation to breathe, rest, and remember that God’s love is not fragile, conditional, or dependent on your performance. You are loved because God is love not because you are perfect. 🌱 Recap of Last Week’s Episode Last week, we talked about what to do when family is the source of religious trauma a powerful and emotional conversation that resonated with so many listeners. We explored how spiritual abuse within families distorts our view of God, creates fear‑based faith, and leads to lifelong struggles with shame, anxiety, and performance‑based spirituality. If you missed that episode, you can listen to the full conversation by clicking the link in the show notes. 💔 In This Episode, We Explore: Why We Believe God’s Love Is Performance‑Based How childhood experiences shape our view of God The role of trauma, fear, and conditional love Insights from leading psychologists like Dr. Diane Langberg, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and Carl Rogers How Performance‑Based Faith Harms Us Spiritual anxiety and fear of disappointing God Shame, perfectionism, and burnout Emotional and physical consequences How striving disconnects us from God Biblical Examples People who struggled with performance: Saul The Pharisees The older brother in the Prodigal Son story People who rested in God’s love: David Mary of Bethany The Prodigal Son Abraham How to Tell If You’re Trying to Earn God’s Love Signs of spiritual striving Emotional indicators The difference between performing for God vs. resting in God Five Healing Exercises The “Beloved” Breath Prayer Rewrite the Script The Grace Journal Scripture Reframing Rest as Worship 💜 Key Scriptures Mentioned Romans 8 Psalm 103 Isaiah 43 Ephesians 2 Luke 10 (Mary & Martha) Luke 15 (Prodigal Son) 🎧 Listen to Last Week’s Episode What to Do When Family Is the Source of Religious Trauma 👉 Link in the show notes 🌱 Join the Free Restoring Faith After Abuse Community If you’re healing from spiritual trauma, religious abuse, or distorted views of God, you’re invited to join Keana’s free Skool community: Restoring Faith After Abuse — a safe, supportive space for rebuilding your faith in a healthy, life‑giving way. Join here: https://www.skool.com/restoring-faith-after-abuse-4824/about?ref=afeaf0bc4df2485d81b2e43d18415929 📬 Connect with Keana W. Mitchell Website: https://keanawmitchell.com Facebook Page: Finding God Facebook Group: Finding God Community Instagram: @findinggod2 Listen on RedCircle: https://redcircle.com/shows/190efd66-2f1a-4c5f-861e-40ab89d4c41b Email: [e-mail] Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/finding-god/donations