What if the biggest blocker to a thriving sex life isn’t desire, kids, or schedules—but your mindset? In this episode, master coach Jody Moore joins me to show how small shifts in thinking can create big changes in intimacy.

We cover:

• Why “keeping your spouse happy” quietly destroys connection

• The surprising reason lower-desire partners stay stuck

• Common mindsets that sabotage sexual arousal

• Clean pain vs. dirty pain in marriage

• And don't miss Jody’s black-belt sex tip!

Sextember is on!
Make September your 30-day intimacy reset inside the Intimately Us app. Plus:

• Virtual Getaway – The Anatomy of Arousal (Sept 26–27): a spicy, nourishing, live, at-home retreat for couples

• Coming next week: Sex Seminar with 25 experts—join our email list for details

Ready to think differently and feel closer? Hit play—and let’s get your marriage on.

Masturbation is one of the most controversial topics in marriage—especially in conservative or religious circles. In this episode, we're not going to tell you what to believe, but we will offer a new perspective and framework for thinking about it.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

• The surprising cultural history that shaped Christian attitudes toward masturbation

• Why shame and secrecy often do more harm than the act itself

• How sexuality and spirituality can be integrated instead of at odds

• A simple framework for evaluating any sexual behavior

• Real stories from couples who moved past guilt and found deeper intimacy

Whether you ultimately say yes or no to masturbation in your marriage, this episode will help you replace shame with honest conversation and build safety for true intimacy.

👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in September with our "Sextember" challenge, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level:

• Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2

• Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27

• Free Masterclass

• Get Your Marriage On Program

What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That’s the heart behind our tradition at Get Your Marriage On called Sextember—a month dedicated to intimacy, playfulness, and connection in marriage.

In this episode, I share the surprising backstory that inspired Sextember, including a 30-day experiment that transformed not only one woman’s marriage but also her happiness and even her appearance. You’ll hear how this idea grew into a challenge for couples everywhere, why September is the perfect time to reset patterns, and how you and your spouse can join in this year.

Plus, I’ll tell you about our upcoming Virtual Getaway: The Anatomy of Arousal—a spicy, nourishing, two-day experience you can enjoy together from home or a hotel.

If you’re ready to have fun, grow closer, and see the before-and-after difference in your marriage, this episode will show you how to make Sextember your best month yet!