Gentle Parenting vs. Tough Love: Lessons From Childhood Ep. 02

In this emotionally charged episode of Real Sht, Jasmin opens up about her childhood experiences growing up in a Filipino household where discipline often crossed the line into trauma. With Khalil providing a grounded perspective, the couple dives deep into the effects of generational parenting practices, the scars they leave behind, and the ongoing journey of healing and unlearning.

From dealing with people-pleasing tendencies to navigating conflict in their marriage, Jasmin and Khalil discuss how these early experiences shaped their lives and their parenting style. They explore the delicate balance between discipline and gentle parenting, touching on the societal shifts that have led to “softer” generations and what that means for raising resilient kids today.

This candid conversation also sheds light on forgiveness, understanding cultural context, and how trauma responses like shutting down can impact relationships. The duo doesn’t shy away from exploring their parenting journey with their son, the challenges of teaching him self-confidence, and the importance of raising children who can stand up for themselves.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro: Jas’ Hesitation to Post About Trauma

4:00 - The Generational Cycle of Discipline and Abuse

12:00 - Unlearning People-Pleasing and Conflict Avoidance

19:00 - The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Marriage

28:00 - Gentle Parenting vs. Traditional Discipline

36:00 - Forgiveness and Cultural Understanding

45:00 - Building Confidence and Resilience in Kids

52:00 - Jas’ Reflections on Her Parents’ Transformation

1:00:00 - Closing Thoughts: Growth, Healing, and What’s Next

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