Gender isn't The Real Issue: Caring For Kids Beneath The Confusion

When children struggle with gender identity, it's rarely just about gender. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender respond to recent pauses in so-called gender-affirming care for minors and explore what real care for kids actually looks like. Drawing from counseling experience, research, Scripture, and deep compassion, they unpack why anxiety, depression, trauma, and confusion about the future often sit beneath gender distress, and why rushing to medical solutions can miss the deeper needs of the child. This conversation equips parents and loved ones with a posture rooted in compassion, hope, truth, and confidence, showing how to engage kids without rejection or oversimplification. If you love a child who is wrestling with identity questions and want to walk with them wisely and faithfully, this episode offers clarity and a path forward grounded in relationship rather than reaction.