From Shame to Self-Compassion: Rethinking Progress in Complex Trauma Recovery

In this Friday Healing episode, Gregory gently unpacks the often unspoken pressure trauma survivors put on themselves to “heal faster” or “do better.” If you’ve ever felt like you're failing your recovery because you’re not “there yet,” this episode is for you. Together, we explore how CPTSD warps our expectations, why shame often drives those internal “shoulds,” and how to shift toward realistic, grace-filled goals that actually support healing.

Key Takeaways:

• Learn why CPTSD survivors often develop unrealistic expectations around healing.
• Understand how perfectionism and shame feed burnout in trauma recovery.
• Discover practical, trauma-informed tools for setting gentler, more compassionate goals.
• Hear real-life stories that illustrate how small mindset shifts can unlock meaningful change.

What You’ll Discover:

• Why “looping” and setbacks are actually normal in CPTSD recovery.
• How to rewrite harmful internal narratives like “I should be over this.”
• What micro-goals, spoon theory, and self-compassion practices can do for your nervous system.
• Why healing is not a performance, and what it means to move forward without urgency.

Resources Mentioned:

• Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino (conceptual reference)
• Grounding practices: 5-4-3-2-1 method, breath counting
• Journal prompts for self-reflection on expectations

Next Episode Preview:

Next Friday, we’ll be exploring “Using Mindfulness to Manage CPTSD Symptoms.” If you’ve struggled with staying present or feel overwhelmed by flashbacks or anxiety, this upcoming episode will offer grounding tools and gentle insights to help you anchor in the now.

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