From Coping to Choosing: The Dad’s Shift That Changes Everything

There’s a point in fatherhood where you realise you’re not living, you’re just coping. Routine keeps you afloat… but it also keeps you stuck.

This episode is about the moment I stopped surviving and started choosing for myself, for Teri, and for the boys.

This week we cover:

• The difference between coping, leading, and living with intention Burnout, responsibility, and the invisible emotional load dads carry
• How routine becomes a mask when life feels overwhelming
• Rebuilding presence, energy, and emotional alignment
• The honest truth: your kids see your exhaustion… and your effort

This matters because:

• Coping can look like leadership until it doesn’t.
• You can be ticking every box, doing every school run, paying every bill… and still be emotionally absent.
• Your kids don’t just need your discipline. They need your alignment, your clarity, your calm and your example.

This week:

• Identify your “survival mode” habits.
• Where are you just getting through the day?
• Create 3 daily reset rituals
• Do a weekly “energy audit” and identify what drains you vs what returns energy?
• Rewrite your Fatherhood Intent Statement
• Set micro-reminders on your phone to reconnect with your role and influence.

Let me know in the comments: Are you living aligned to the goal, or just coping better than you used to?

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