This episode: From Grief to Guidance: Jeannie Dougherty on Caregiving, Money, and Turning Adversity into Advocacy.

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Introduction and Purpose of the Meeting (0:02)

• Drew initiates the recording and introduces Jeannie Dougherty, expressing excitement about the discussion.
• Drew thanks Priscilla Leto for introducing Jeannie and sets the stage for the conversation.
• He discusses the linear view of life taught in childhood and how external circumstances can derail this path.
• Drew introduces the concept of three types of women: one with blind spots, one who sees adversity as a victim, and one who sees adversity as an opportunity for growth.

Jeannie's Journey to Becoming a Caregiver Advocate (1:53)

• Jeannie shares her background, mentioning that both her parents passed away from Alzheimer's with no previous family history.
• She describes the financial exploitation her mother faced from a family member, which was hidden until after her death.
• Jeannie recounts her defining moment at her mother's grave site, where she realized she would not let the situation kill her and decided to make changes.
• She explains the impact of her parents' deaths and the financial exploitation on her family, emphasizing the importance of awareness and prevention.

Impact of Parents' Illnesses and Financial Exploitation (3:55)

• Drew and Jeannie discuss the initial shock of Jeannie's father's Alzheimer's diagnosis and the lack of clear information from doctors.
• Jeannie shares her experience of her mother's Alzheimer's diagnosis and the control issues within her family.
• She describes the challenges of being the official caregiver and the emotional toll of dealing with financial exploitation.
• Jeannie reflects on the importance of addressing financial expectations and the need for open communication about final wishes.

Transition to Caregiver Advocacy and Emotional Money Coaching (6:00)

• Jeannie talks about her job working for a federal government contractor, where she built a retirement readiness and caregiver program.
• She shares her experience of taking dance classes and discovering emotional behavioral learning, which led her to become an emotional money coach.
• Jeannie explains the concept of emotional money coaching and the importance of addressing family rules and emotions related to money.
• She discusses the impact of the pandemic on caregivers and the need for better support and resources for caregivers.

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This episode: Rediscovering the Treasures of Life: Mike & Karen Burkhard on Adversity, Love, and Passing Wisdom Forward.

Here’s what you’ll learn about:

Introduction and Purpose of the Meeting (0:00)

• Host Drew Deraney introduces Mike and Karen Burkhard, thanking Frank Zaccari for the introduction.
• Drew discusses the concept of life being linear and how external circumstances can derail that path.
• He categorizes people into three types: those who don't see adversity, those who see it but blame others, and those who see it as an opportunity for growth.
• Drew sets the stage for Karen to share her defining moment that transformed her from Woman number one or two to the woman she is now.

Karen's Defining Moment (2:25)

• Karen shares her upbringing in a loving home with a disciplinarian father and a gentle mother.
• She recounts her struggle with math and failing the New York State Regents at 14.
• Her father tutored her in algebra over the summer, and she passed the Regents with a 92, thanks to his mentorship.
• Karen reflects on how her father's faith in her taught her that she could achieve anything.

Mike's Defining Moment (5:08)

• Mike shares his experience of his mother's battle with liver cancer and her eventual death at 58.
• He describes how his mother's illness made him realize the preciousness of life and the importance of total health.
• Mike explains how his mother's experience deepened his love for life and his children.
• He reflects on how his mother's death changed him from an internal to an external person, focusing on others' well-being.

Similarities in Defining Moments (7:35)

• Drew asks Mike and Karen to touch on the similarities in their defining moments.
• Karen notes that both her parents were strong personalities and wonderful mentors who shaped her to pass on mentorship to others.
• Mike agrees, adding that his parents' influence led to a change in his emotions, from arrogance to a deeper love for life.
• Drew comments on how time doesn’t necessarily heal wounds and good memories remain important.

Meeting and Early Careers (9:41)

• Drew transitions to discussing how Mike and Karen met and their early careers.
• Karen explains that their shared love of sports brought them together and that Mike made the first move at a dance.

This episode: Choosing Happiness Through Adversity: Christine Matus on Mindset, Motherhood, and Protecting Families with Special Needs.

Here’s what you’ll learn about:

Christine Matus' Introduction and Personal Background (0:04)

• Host Drew Deraney introduces Christine Matus, highlighting her as the 150th episode guest and expresses excitement about her presence.
• Drew discusses the concept of life being linear until external circumstances derail the path, introducing three types of women who face adversity differently.
• Christine Matus shares her journey from being unaware of adversity to recognizing it and taking action to become a stronger person.
• Christine recounts the birth of her daughter with Down syndrome and autism, describing the initial shock and the transformative dream she had.

Transformative Moments and Mindset Shifts (3:17)

• Christine explains how her father's perspective and her husband's happiness influenced her mindset, leading her to choose happiness as a conscious decision.
• She describes the effort required to change her mindset and the importance of surrounding herself with positive and uplifting people.
• Christine shares her experiences of attending support groups and learning from other families with similar challenges.
• She emphasizes the importance of mindset work and the ongoing effort to maintain a positive outlook.

Challenges and Adjustments During Pregnancy (6:33)

• Drew inquires about Christine's awareness during pregnancy, and Christine recounts the initial shock and the process of learning about her daughter's conditions.
• Christine discusses the decision to have an amniocentesis and her initial reluctance to face the reality of her daughter's conditions.
• She reflects on the emotional impact of the news and the support she received from her family and friends.
• Christine highlights the importance of being prepared and educated about special needs, especially for first-time parents.

Navigating Special Needs and Legal Advice (14:10)

• Christine shares her journey of learning about her daughter's autism and the impact it had on their family.
• She discusses the importance of legal advice and the role of special needs trusts in protecting and supporting her daughter.
• Christine explains the different types of trusts available and the benefits of having them in place.
• She emphasizes the need for proper legal guidance to ensure the best outcomes for families with special needs.

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