Most guys think commitment means trying harder, pushing through, and shaming yourself into change. But that kind of “commitment” always burns out. In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin unpack why lasting freedom requires a shame-free commitment.

Through personal stories, hilarious analogies (backflips, belly flops, and failed journaling attempts), and biblical truth, they show you how to spot the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in half-hearted attempts—and how to finally go all in without the weight of shame.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re “committed to quitting” but secretly only committed to looking like you’re quitting, this conversation will flip the script. Freedom doesn’t come from beating yourself up. It comes from believing the truth of who you are in Christ—and committing from that place of grace.

Welcome to the Free From Porn podcast, where freedom is your new normal. In today’s episode, your host Justin Khoe and co-host Richard Young dive deep into a raw and real conversation about the unexpected, uncomfortable reality of being propositioned in a massage parlor. It’s not a story you hear often, but it highlights a key truth: external circumstances don’t define your integrity.

Justin shares multiple jaw-dropping stories of being propositioned in places he thought were safe spaces, and how he continually chose purity in moments of temptation. Richard joins the conversation to challenge the false narrative that external factors—like women’s clothing or controlling environments—are the key to overcoming lust. Instead, the battle starts inside, and how you choose to see people, not as objects but as image-bearers of God.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The absurdity of outsourcing responsibility for your lust to others.
• Why changing how you view people is the real battle.
• Practical steps to take ownership and steward your thoughts and eyes.

It’s time to stop blaming others and start embracing the transformation of your mind. Tune in for a conversation that will shift your perspective on lust, temptation, and true freedom.

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“You’re going to be single forever if you keep watching porn…”
That line hits different—especially if you’ve ever secretly feared it might be true.

In this honest and surprising episode, Richard, Justin, and our guest Ruth Johnson take a wrecking ball to the hidden fear that porn has destroyed your chances at love.

But this isn’t just about sex or singleness—it’s about how porn warps your ability to connect with real people.

Ruth brings a powerful and rarely-heard female perspective on how media marketed as “funny” or “romantic”—from American Pie to Twilight—shaped how she saw men, love, and her own worth.

We talk about:

• Why both men and women can objectify each other without even realizing it
• How porn rewires your brain—and makes healthy relationships harder
• The subtle ways shame keeps you guarded, self-protecting, and disconnected
• And how the gospel frees you to see others (and yourself) as God does: with love, curiosity, and grace.

If you're tired of relational pain, performance masks, or the fear that you’ll never be “enough” for someone—you need this episode.

🔥 Plus: Ruth and Eliana are launching a brand new coaching program for women ready to walk in freedom. DM them to learn more— @strewthrewth @always.daughter